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  1. Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

    Next time, leave one of these for your days off! We all missed each other so much! <3

  2. Loias supports harsher punishments against corporations says:

    Loias’ Wedding Outcome:

    The whole thing went off with only one hitch – my own! (groan, chuckle, fruit tossing, giant hook)

    It went very, very well. Weather started off great with overcast during pictures, then started getting windy, dark, stormy right before the ceremony! Oh no! We ended up being only a few miles from a large storm system, but this actually turned to our advantage. The temperature dropped 20 degrees, the sky remained dark (great for pictures) and the wind died down pretty quickly. That was about as good as we could have hoped; way better than a 100 degree scorching.

    Ceremony went great, did our family pictures, also went well. We got so many compliments on the food, and it truly was amazing fare. Everyone loved our lego favors – people immediately got them out and started building!
    My wife (squee!!) and I did out first dance which we choreographed ourselves, which also was a huge hit with everyone.
    So with the exception of a few tiny details, and the occasional updraft of wind blowing things down, it really went about as good as anyone could expect for such a coordinated event.

    We still haven’t registered the whole married thing in our heads – we’ve been together 4 years already so we’re past that newness thing already and into the normalcy of the relationship. We still have a ways to go to join our insurances, phone plans, bank accounts, etc. So sometime soon, I’m sure it will really hit home for me. I guess the fact I don’t feel different is a good thing – it means I’m definitely okay with being married despite the typical guy hesitation about the whole thing. No cold feet, no reservations.

    • Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

      Congrats! :)

    • Tegan says:

      Congratulations!!! :D I’m very glad to hear the wedding was awesome, and that everything is great between you and your wife.

    • MaxH42 thinks RecordStoreToughGuy got a raw deal says:

      Woo-hoo! o/

      And yes, the fact that this isn’t a total transformation is a good thing, IMO.

    • Back to waiting, but I did get a cute dragon ear cuff says:

      Congrats. And with all the stories here about airline problems, are you walking to your Honeymoon or taking a bike?

      • Loias supports harsher punishments against corporations says:

        Actually going to Yellowstone, so we are driving as we are close enough to get there on our own.

    • HogwartsProfessor says:

      Congratulations. I’m glad it went well.


  3. Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

    You guys,
    So remember my boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months ago?
    We had already signed a lease for August for a new place and we’ll still be moving in together.
    I’m honestly not worried, we’re still good friends, but… any advice from you experienced adults out there?
    We’re both 21 and in college if that makes for anything… I’m also in my career already and he is not.

    • Loias supports harsher punishments against corporations says:

      Accept that whatever plans for combined chores or assigned duties around the house will probably not work out the way you said they would at the beginning. Then adjust the duties to something that actually works for both of you.

    • TheMansfieldMauler says:

      Buy a 55 gallon drum of saltpeter.

    • Tegan says:

      Oh dear. I did pretty much the exact same thing when I was in college (albeit a couple years younger than you currently are) – broke up with my boyfriend at the time, but then still moved in with him a couple months later because we were still good friends and had signed the lease, and housing was hard to come by.

      At least for me, it was a terrible decision. I still had feelings for my ex, and he apparently still had some sort of feelings for me, so we ended up sleeping together a few times with me feeling completely miserable each time afterwards. I stayed through the lease because the rent was cheap and I was broke, but it was a really bad time for me. I spent all my time either in my room with the door closed or hiding in the practice rooms up at school.

      On that cheery note, hopefully your experience is nothing like mine and everything is awesome. But in case it’s not, make sure you know you have other places you can go to spend time, and especially friends you can crash with for a night if you really need to not be there. This part’s going to sound cheesy, but try to be really aware of how you’re feeling and don’t let your mental health fall by the wayside if it comes to that. Sorry to sound all doom-and-gloom, I just know what it was like for me and wouldn’t want anyone else to have to go through that.

      • Loias supports harsher punishments against corporations says:

        Practice rooms? What instrument?

        • Tegan says:

          String bass! And I’m about to play next week for the first time in about 2.5 years. It’s going to be awesome!!

          • Loias supports harsher punishments against corporations says:

            I’ve been very tempted to do a “I wasted 4 years of college in music and thousands of dollars to work a desk job and now I’m over the hill and have nostalgia about playing the trombone” concert.

            • Tegan says:

              I like the way you think. I’m just doing summer band down at Emory, and I’ve been trying to get my fiance to come join in. He didn’t major in music, but he did play sax throughout high school and college. It’s still so strange that music was my entire world for such a large part of my life, and now it’s been years since I touched an instrument of any kind. When we buy a house next year there WILL be a place for a piano at least, but it’s hard right now with our 1 bedroom apartment and both of us working long hours in IT.

              Tangent aside, nostalgia concert sounds like an excellent idea. I bet you could find quite a few ex-music majors to join in and end up with a very interesting program.

    • scoosdad says:
      • Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

        Omg thats hilarious! But no no no, there will be none of that, at all. We’ve already made it a rule.

    • Not Given says:

      Hire someone to clean and never touch his laundry unless you have to kick it aside to get to the fridge.

    • Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

      Thank you guys! But seriously, I not worried about anything besides conjuring feelings if we start bringing others around. But I don’t think I’ll be conjuring feeling for anyone for a while or bringing anyone around. Maybe its just because I hate everyone currently. :)

    • HogwartsProfessor says:

      Just know that if he starts dating someone, you’ll have to listen to it. Can you handle that? I couldn’t. I don’t even TALK to exes. I’m doing no contact with ex-bf right now and do NOT want to know what he is doing or with whom. *pleasegodmakehimcomebackpleasepleasepleasekthxbai*

      • Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

        I would never, ever date my ex again. Never. He was the cheapest thing you could ever find on this planet. He also didn’t understand my needs in a relationship. I feel like we never had a strong connection. He felt like an acquaintance. I could never see us as being anything more than friends.

    • do-it-myself says:


      Save yourself the trouble and get out of the lease. The penalty will be worth every penny.

      THINK about why you broke up in the first place. You think all those issues will just *evaporate* away? THINK about how awkward it will be with him bringing other girls home.

      If he doesn’t understand your change of heart about this lease, then you have 100% confirmation that you did the right thing.

      • Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

        We’re gay, btw… also, we’re still great friends. The problem was always feeling more like just-friends than more-than-friends.

        • HogwartsProfessor says:

          Well in that case, it might work. But like the Seinfeld bit, you’ll need to have very clear rules. You might write them down once you agree on them and both sign it, like a contract.

        • do-it-myself says:

          I have friends (also gay….as well as myself) who did that very thing. They broke up while still living together. Tried to remain friends, but jealousy got the best of them. One moved out and a year later they got back together, but thankfully didn’t move back in with each other. They ended up breaking up again and are no longer speaking. I still don’t know what happened, but seems like disaster.

          But it also depends you your “friend” relationship with each other. Doesn’t matter if you are gay, straight, trans, martian….it’s all about communication and clarity.

          I’m also reminded of a DVD I saw last week. The one based on the comic series. The unfabulous life of Brian Green (I think that’s the title).

  4. Back to waiting, but I did get a cute dragon ear cuff says:

    Finally got power Thursday at 1 am after losing it in Friday night’s derecho storm. This is where doing all my main shopping at Sam’s does not help out a lot. All the stuff I buy once every month or 2 has to be bought at once, 4lbs butter, etc. Had to throw EVERYTHING out in both the upright freezer and the fridge. OK, I didn’t have to throw out the brown sugar, ketchup and bottled water. And it gave me a chance to really clean them both, and defrost the freezer.

    Now that I have power, I just have to find the time to cut up the tree that fell (low end electric chain saw) and destroyed the swing set and put a hole in the roof on the porch. The girls (14 and 12) were kind of happy that the swing set is now gone.

    • Will Print T-shirts For Food says:

      Hey, look at the positive side… at least you’ve still got that brown sugar, bro. Important stuff.

    • HogwartsProfessor says:

      When I was five, a tornado came through our neighborhood in Kansas City and knocked down this humongous apple tree we had on top of our swing set. I remember we got another one, but I didn’t know until just a year or so ago that my dad had gone back to the store where he got it and told them what happened. He was going to buy another one, but they GAVE him another set for FREE. 0_0 :)

      I forgot to ask what store it was. I guess it probably doesn’t exist anymore since they were so nice.

  5. HogwartsProfessor says:

    Kitteh has something to say.

    I do not. Except I can’t sleep. So I went to the doctor this morning and he gave me some stuff. He said it was very low dose and not habit-forming. I’ve been taking generic Unisom but it doesn’t work; just makes me groggy in the morning. Um, no, I want to be sleepy at NIGHT.

    Still no job. My mom came over today and took me to the mall and I tried on this really really really cute, really thin material, Ralph Lauren ruffly print shirt but it was SEVENTY DOLLARS. Mom was like “I’ll get it for you! It’s on sale an I have a Macy’s card!” Even at that, I could NOT let her spend that much for a shirt I’ll probably rip with one wrong move. So I’ll look for a similar shirt in a cheaper place. That price is just obscene.

    • Tegan says:

      Good luck with the whole sleeping thing. Life’s always extra miserable when you can’t get sleep consistently :(
      You should find some good books and/or some good video games, something you can do to totally immerse yourself in a different world and not have to think about stuff. I’ve heard movies do this for some people too, but I’ve never been much of a movie person. It might help, at any rate.
      Also, good luck finding an even more awesome and durable shirt! I’m pretty useless for any actual suggestions, but I’m sure you’ll find something you like even better.

      • HogwartsProfessor says:

        I have to get back on some sort of human schedule in case I find a job. It’s just broken sleep cuz I can’t turn off my brain.

        Nooooo I can’t touch *his* PS2 right now. I just can’t. I want him here playing with me. :'( I’m working my way through How I Met Your Mother on Netflix in the evenings. It’s really funny. I’m enjoying Neal Patrick Harris so much on that show.

        I’ll just keep my eyes open for a similar style. At least now I know it looks halfway decent on me.

        • Tegan says:

          Yeah, that’s definitely at least half the battle. I can pick out all sorts of things I think look nice on hangers and in pictures, but usually only about a tenth of those will look decent on. I seem to have a special talent for picking out things that look the most possible amount of ridiculous on me.

          Just keep doing stuff :) You’ll be awesome.

          • HogwartsProfessor says:

            *hug* Thank you. I managed to listen to my Zanarkand skating music today at practice without crying.

  6. lovemypets00 - You'll need to forgive me, my social filter has cracked. says:

    OK, so who was the dumbass who thought it would be a good idea to take off a week and a half from work? OMG I will never do this again. What a mess. But – at least I was relaxed and calm for 12 days.

    I live in Central PA – the weatherman on the radio said tomorrow’s high should reach 100. I’m just going to sit in the shade and drink ice water. **sighs**

  7. Jane_Gage says:

    Had a cancer scare, but found out today it’s all good. It’s a massive fibroid that is pushing my ovary up so far I can feel it through my skin, where evidently it will stay until I go through meno. But, no cancer! :-)

    • HogwartsProfessor says:

      Bleah! Glad it’s not the C thing. I hope it doesn’t hurt too much.

      • Jane_Gage says:

        Thanks all. Had a huge sushi lunch to celebrate, and even though it’s not my thing I was taken to my first baseball game by a friend. No pain except for “that time of the month,” when it shoots down to my knees and sometimes makes me vomit. I take lots of painkillers with sleep aids preemptively, all good.

    • Tegan says:

      Holy crap, yay! No cancer is huge awesome news. You should go out and celebrate!

    • VintageLydia says:

      Yeah I had a dermoid cyst when I was 19. That was scary as hell and HAD to be removed and unfortunately, the ovary had to go along with it :( I was relieved it wasn’t cancerous, though. Just my lit

      • VintageLydia says:

        **comment screwed up**


        Just my little ovary trying to make a baby without only have the needed information


      • Jane_Gage says:

        I just read about it on wiki, that’s crazy! I guess you only get your period every other month, which I would certainly consider a plus.

        • VintageLydia says:

          I WISH I ONLY GOT IT EVERY OTHER MONTH! Apparently the other ovary goes on overdrive to compensate? And most of what’s unpleasant about periods have nothing to do with the egg, anyway.

          To get back on topic, though, I’m glad you don’t have cancer! Weird cysts and tumors on your ladybits are a nerve wracking >.<