Man Sends $70K To Online Suitor, Sues OKCupid For Not Warning Him Of Dating Dangers

Sometimes, when love is in the air, it’s like nothing matters — eating, sleeping… keeping an eye on your bank account and making sure not to send a bunch of money to someone you’ve never met. A man who was tricked into sending $70,000 to an online suitor is now suing OKCupid for not warning him that such a thing could happen.

The New York man filed the lawsuit in Manhattan Supreme Court, claiming that OKCupid’s reputation made him feel “safe” and he trusted the profile of a man he met on the site in February 2013, reports the New York Daily News.

The 65-year-old says that after a whirlwind romance consisting of days chatting on the site, and later exchanging emails, the two were talking on the phone a month in. That’s when the man says his new paramour started asking for money to fund his business.

“Believing his story because he now trusted [the man] based on their multiple daily conversations,” the plaintiff made two wire transfers of $12,000 total to a name that wasn’t his suitor’s in Texas.

The money was returned to his bank and the suitor then asked the man to send the money to another account, under another name, elsewhere in Texas. He also sent a third transfer of $12,000 to someone in Canada and yet another to England.

Sigh. Just a reminder at this point — if this is happening to you? It’s a scam. Don’t do it.

After leaking $70,000 total, the man grew suspicious of the fake receipts, and said the money went to his suitor’s account instead. His friends helped out by finding the guy on the Internet, where his name was listed on a website of known scammers.

Out of money and probably out of luck when it comes to nabbing, the guy, the man thinks his former love is back on OkCupid, looking for new victims. He’s suing OKCupid for not warning users that such a scam could happen.

We’ve reached out to OKCupid for comment, but in the meantime, we can’t say it enough: Do not send someone you’ve never met a whole lot of money. Actually, don’t send anyone a whole lot of money if you don’t know them really, really well.

Queens man who gave $70,000 to man he met on OkCupid.com suing dating site for failing to warn him about dangers of online dating [New York Daily News]

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  1. ResNullum says:

    “Man Ashamed at Own Gullibility Looks for Someone Else to Blame: Film at 11”

    OKCupid doesn’t perform background checks, which this guy should have known when he signed up for it. Why on Earth does he think they have any culpability in this?

  2. SingleMaltGeek says:

    He should also sue the computer manufacturer, the manufacturer of his phone handset, his ISP and phone service provider, and whoever manufactured his desk and chair for contributing to this scam.

    But most culpable….

    …wait for it….

    …his parents, of course. For raising a dumbass.

    • Snarkapus says:

      +1. As Forrest Gump’s mama said, “stupid is as stupid does.”
      Maybe I could find a TEENSY bit of understanding if it was a one and done transfer, but “The money was returned to his bank and the suitor then asked the man to send the money to another account, under another name, elsewhere in Texas. He also sent a third transfer of $12,000 to someone in Canada and yet another to England.” just defies credulity.

  3. MathManv2point0 says:

    Wait, someone out there thinks that OKCupid has a reputation for being a good/reliable dating site? I hear it can be reliable when looking for hook-ups but I have never met a married couple that said they met through OKCupid.

    • ResNullum says:

      I met my wife through OKCupid, and I know at least two other happy couples who met through it.

  4. MarthaGaill says:

    Uh, I do believe there is a section somewhere on the site that says specifically never to send money to anyone and to report users who ask you for things. The man is an effing idiot.

    • C0Y0TY says:

      But they should know no one ever reads the terms of service or warnings or instructions or words!