Restaurant Bans Screaming Kids, Business Booms

The female owner of a North Carolina restaurant has put up a new sign on its front door saying, “Screaming children will not be tolerated.”

The restraunteur says she got sick of customers complaining about parents who couldn’t control their kids during meals, treating the restaurant like their personal playground, misbehaving and squawking.

If a kid starts screaming, an employee will ask the parent to please take the child outside.

“We want to attract the type of people that come in knowing they aren’t going to have to sit behind a table with a bunch of screaming children,” the owner said.

Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

The restaurant says it’s brought them more new business than it’s driven away.

Carolina Beach restaurant says “no” to screaming children [WECT] (Thanks to Julie!)

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  1. CherieBerry says:

    Best way for some free advertising.

    • The hand that feeds, now with more bacon says:

      Effective free advertising. I live about 30 minutes away. I’m going to check them out this weekend.

      • LadySiren is murdering her kids with HFCS and processed cheese says:

        Yep, this was on WFMY in the Triad last night. Carolina Beach is usually my beach of choice; next time it’s just the hubby and I, we’re going to go give it a whirl. I wonder if the owner would mind if I suddenly started screaming and whining?

        • LadySiren is murdering her kids with HFCS and processed cheese says:

          Also: a local radio station is hosting a “screaming kids night” at a Triad K&W restaurant in response to the story.

    • RayanneGraff says:

      I’d eat there, for sure. I wish all restaurants would do this.

    • RxDude says:

      Yep. I’ve seen people at work share lists of which restaurants have discounted kids’ meals on certain days. Makes sense for them, since they can save some money. I use it as a guide to which places to avoid on those days.

    • smo0 says:

      It was for me (contributor here) I saw it on the news this morning walking into work, I also saw the interview with the “mother” who was whining about how you can’t control your kids… so I looked up the article on the net. In fact, go google it… you’ll find a bunch of “pro-mom” sites bitching about this, it’s hilarious.

    • somedave says:

      I’m just glad that almost every restaurant worth going to in Oregon seems to have a bar area that is 21+ only. Families can have the dining room, I won’t hear them in the room I’m in.

  2. ThinkerTDM says:

    I banned people at my restaurant. I’m very lonely.

  3. Miss Oli says:

    I say bravo! I never allow my child to run wild or be out of control in public. It’s called common courtesy and manners.

    • DariusC says:

      Agreed. This solves that and the breastfeeding problem. Keep them at home, they don’t wanna hang with mom and dad anyways because mom and dad are lame…

      When they are mature enough to think mom and dad are not lame, they are usually not screaming children and it’s okay to bring them in public.

      • trey says:

        what is the breastfeeding problem? or is this something that is a problem to you and therefore not a problem at all.

        • DariusC says:

          It is that problem that everyone commenting on consumerist were up in arms about…

          Yeah, just leave your kid at home alone or get a babysitter… don’t make the rest of society suffer for the minority. Majority Vote = WINS = DEMOCRACY = AMERICAN! GO AMERICA!

          • Azagthoth says:

            And here in Utah where every family has 6-12 kids they ARE the majority. Try eating out here without tripping over 4 high chairs on your way to your table, or listening to at least 3 screaming kids, even at higher end places.

            This shit wouldn’t fly locally, the place would be out of business in a month.

            • Fafaflunkie Plays His World's Smallest Violin For You says:

              I’d beg to differ. While as you say the majority of those living in Utah – must be that Mormon thing – breed like rabbits, I’m sure there are many who’d appreciate being able to enjoy a meal at a restaurant without the barrage of screaming kids running around on a tear to the ignorance of their parents who couldn’t fathom actually telling their little darlings “no!” for that may hurt their precious self-esteems. I’d actually hunt out restaurants who’d adopt Brenda Armes’ policy.

              • Happy Tinfoil Cat says:

                When the vast majority of the population is LDS, how can you ‘beg to differ’? Mormons have nothing on Catholics (which breed like roaches). See how nasty that sounds? Most families in Utah teach their kids to be respectful. Of course, babies cry but a breast can quiet that usually. Besides the screaming, crying, giggles and laughter of children is the music of life.

              • Azagthoth says:

                And I’m here to tell you that isn’t the case. There have been local restaurants that have not taken a liking to the kiddies, they are hot for a month and then fade out into bankruptcy. It is a better business plan to cater to families of 8+ then couples of 2 only.

          • Doncosmic says:

            Actually there is this thing called the bill of rights, it and a few of the amendments to the constitution that have come since were put there specifically to protect people against ignorant majorities.

          • Doncosmic says:

            Actually there is this thing called the bill of rights, it and a few of the amendments to the constitution that have come since were put there specifically to protect people against ignorant majorities.

          • jivesukka says:

            Thank you for commenting and then never answering the question asked, it is a brilliant tactic on the internet.

          • macruadhi says:

            um, yeah, that’s why America is NOT a Democracy. It is a Republic, a government of laws, not of people. A Democracy is, as you said, majority rule. It’s two wolves and a sheep deciding what to have for dinner.

    • womynist says:

      Yes! This sign should be posted at more restaurants. I went out to dinner with my bf recently and we were sat next to a table where the 2 parents were letting their daughter (maybe 10 years old) play a hand-held video game, and it sounded as if the volume was turned all the way up. After glaring at them for a few minutes, hoping they’d notice, we finally said something to the server.

      She moved us to another table in a different section of the restaurant which was fine, but people will keep doing this rude shit if the waitstaff/management doesn’t have the balls to say “I’m going to have to ask you to turn the volume down for the comfort of the other patrons.” These fucktards were getting the evil eye from other customers too, not just me.

      • eyesack is the boss of the DEFAMATION ZONE says:

        I wouldn’t expect the waiter to say anything. They have to have more interaction with the family, and they have a financial incentive to suck up.

        The manager, though, would make sense. Or you. That actually makes the most sense.

    • alana0j says:

      Thank you! When my daughter was very young, there was a few times I requested a to-go box and a check WELL before I was done eating because she was causing a scene. I refuse to let my kid ruin dinner for everyone else, I only wish other parents would have the came courtesy.

    • Difdi says:

      Exactly this. You can’t help it if your kids scream, the same way you can’t help it if they steal, or never clean their room. What’s happened to discipline these days?

      • ParingKnife ("That's a kniwfe.") says:

        Actually, you can’t. You do realize that a child is a sentient being separate from their parents? It’s like people who complain that teachers are eternally responsible for their students’ grades. It makes no sense. There are limits.

        • BHall says:

          Yes exactly this! Most adults are not able to control their own lives, how can we ask them to control the life of a child they are responsible for.

          Seriously tho the continuation of the species should never be at the detriment of the species.

    • NumberSix says:

      True. Sometimes you can’t stop a toddler from screaming. The act almost entirely on impulse until they are about 4 or 5.

      When my boy looses control, I ALWAYS take him outside and calm him down. This should be common sense, but sadly no.

  4. OnePumpChump says:

    You can’t help it if your kids scream.

    But I can.

  5. TuxthePenguin says:

    “Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.””

    An infant or toddler, I can understand. They’re too young to really know what not to do. But my parents made it very, very clear that I was to act politely in public. And if I didn’t, I was taking outside…

    • ARP says:

      I think part of it is that we were taught that your “baseline” behavior should be good.

      Too often, I see a parent try to bribe their kid into acting good once they start to get riled up. I always wondered what that taught- that you should act poorly and then wait for the bribe.

      • TuxthePenguin says:

        Either parents today are dumber or kids today are smarter. I never thought about being bad in order to get a bribe…

        • Spellchk says:

          I didn’t get bribes when I was a child. I got backhanded instead. Worked wonders.

          • catastrophegirl chooses not to fly says:

            from what i hear from my family, by the time i was three, a screaming child at the next table would cause me to remark “that girl needs a trip [enter scary hushed voice] to the ladies’ room!”

            • RayanneGraff says:

              My 6 year old sister does this too, and it warms my heart every time. We’ll be out somewhere & see a kid throwing a fit & she’ll say to me, “He’s being bad, he needs a spanking!”. So cute.

            • QueenofSheepsbaaah says:

              Those “trips to the ladies room” scarred my brother and I for life! Even now, at 46 and 47 years old, public restrooms bring on PTSD like flashbacks for us. I’m sure my brother has been found more than once in a fetal position under the sink swearing he’ll be good and clean his plate!

          • mowz says:

            I remember those days. I don’t think there is enough discipline doled out by parents today. The parenting community i way too PC.

          • RayanneGraff says:

            Me too. With my folks it was ‘act right or I’ll spank the living shit out of you’, not ‘act right and I’ll buy you this toy’. I tested them once, & I’ve acted right ever since!

        • Oranges w/ Cheese says:

          Your parents probably never gave you the opportunity. Plus, you don’t learn to think about a bribe if it isn’t an option. If your options are act well or be punished, you act well. If your options are act well or act out and get candy to act well, you act poorly.

        • pecan 3.14159265 says:

          Kids have been doing this since the dawn of time. It’s called operant conditioning. Every action leads to a result. If parents use bribes to placate misbehaving kids, what are kids going to learn? Misbehavior leads to treats. Smart parents know to reinforce good behavior with treats and bad behavior with punishments.

      • pOLLYpOCKET says:

        Not only that, but one of my biggest pet peeves is when parents say “That’s not nice, don’t do that.” With the child still sitting there having a hissyfit.

        Maybe it’s just the way I was raised, but we were told how you can and can’t act in public. If you didn’t act right, you got in trouble no ifs ands or butts about it. My parents WOULD take us outside or give us that look that you knew you were dead when you got home. But we stopped doing whatever it is we were doing.

    • chaesar says:

      you probably cant help it the first time, but thats it

    • knoxblox says:

      I spent a great deal of time outside as a kid…

    • Gulliver says:

      1. If it is an infant or toddler that can not control themselves why are they at a restaurant?
      2. At the first sound a responsible parent takes the kid outside
      3. Just because you think your kid running through the restaurant and talkign to people is “cute” does not mean the rest of us do.

      • NHpurple says:

        Excellent response!
        Eating out is a treat for me, not something to be endured b/c some parents don’t know how to raise their children to respect others. If they are wired after a day of being dragged around a mall, then the kids should be in a park, not losing it in a public restaurant.

    • LadySiren is murdering her kids with HFCS and processed cheese says:

      We always tell our five kiddos that if they act up anywhere, they’re going outside. With Dad. And outside, there are no witnesses. So far, they’ve been well-behaved, thank heavens.

    • mandy_Reeves says:

      Right…this is gonna be one of them “what is with these darn kids today” rants… Seriously, I never EVER misbehaved any place…my brother and sister included. I remember waitresses always telling the folks how they were so well impressed by our manners. I don’t really remember a lot of screaming little kids at restaurants in the 80-90s…Were we just more well behaved back then? I mean yes there was the occasional hellion who would flip out, but nothing severe as I see today….little kids literally slamming themselves to the floor, and parents saying “johnny…this is not appropriate indoor behavior…you are making a bad choice” Instead of dragging them out by the ear and pretty much spanking their ass.

      • mandy_Reeves says:

        I’d like to say that I do not believe in child ABUSE…but a mild butt whoopin is very necessary for a severe infraction.

  6. El Soze says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Well that certainly isn’t true.
    Maybe if you didn’t put up with it you *could* help it…

  7. osiris73 says:

    I’d go to that restaurant because they banned screaming kids. Now if they could only ban loud-talkers on cell phones, too….

    • Rectilinear Propagation says:

      Why not just ban loud talkers period?

      • myCatCracksMeUp says:

        THAT is what I want.

        • DustingWhale says:

          +1 I lived with super loud talkers for a few years. After ahile I’d get sick of it and start talking loudly, to try and prove a point. They’d always turn and ask in a butt-hurt way, “Why are you talking SO LOUD?”

    • redskull says:

      Amen to that one.

      My favorite thing is to see a couple sitting together at a table and they’re BOTH talking on their cell phones. They’ll do this for their entire meal. Why’d they even bother to go to a restaurant with someone if they’d rather talk with someone else?

    • Sparty999 says:

      the fact that you are referring to our kids as “it” says something about how you value a child’s role in society. Sure, I don’t like all kids, many annoy me, and I often wish the parents would control them better… but, really? you’re argument is weak, short-sited, and rude to those of us who make the decision (and are attractive enough to find a mate) to have kids.

    • Snowblind says:

      yes well, the two groups probably overlap I would think.

      There was a family restaurant here in town that cater to families with kids. Good cheap food for the kids, with some nicer meals as well.
      A toybox at every table and a “tumble” area for the kids while they waited for the food. Lots of good snacky food for the kids pre meal too. Carrot sticks, raisins, bread, etc.
      Solid food of high quality for the parents. The Steak au Poivre was excellent when it was on the menu and they made the best pork chops I have had anywhere.

      Very creative mashed cauliflower with blue cheese too.

      The most surprising thing was that one would expect the kids to be somewhat rambunctious. However, the kids there were better behaved than at other family restaurants, even kids of friends that I knew were hellions at times in a regular restaurant calmed down while at this place.

      Perhaps because they were catered too, not seen as a necessary evil. Who knows?

    • dolemite says:

      I’ll never understand why people talk loudly on a cell phone. It’s like they assume that since the sound coming out of their teeny tiny speaker is low, that apparently they must raise their voice.

      “I can’t hear you! Let me talk EVEN LOUDER!”

      • Chairman-Meow says:

        The reason why people tend to talk louder on cellphones is because, unlike ole Ma Bell Analog phones, you do not hear yourself in the receiver. So people think the person on the other end cannot hear them so they ratchet up the volume to compensate.

        Your phone lesson for today has been brought to you by the the annoying person at table 8.

        • Crass says:

          I can hear myself in my cell phone sometimes, but at like a half second delay so its really really annoying. I hate my phone :(

    • jefeloco says:

      I want to be there!

  8. dg says:

    YES! YES! YES! I wish every restaurant (which isn’t a Chuck-E-Cheese thing) would do this. When I go out to eat, I don’t want to listen to someone’s uncontrolled demonspawn screaming, pounding, kicking, crying, yelling, and banging… I want to eat, and enjoy the company of the adults that I’m with.

    If you can’t control your kid, leave it at home.

    You might not be able to help it if your kid screams, but you can sure as hell shut it up, take it out of the restaurant, and you know – act like a parent and teach the kid how to behave. If you can’t – then don’t reproduce.

    • speedwell (propagandist and secular snarkist) says:

      Or at least don’t take your child to a place where you know other people don’t want to hear screaming children.

      • bsh0544 says:

        Are there places where others do want to hear screaming children?

        • FrugalFreak says:

          Mcdonalds is acceptable, but you know it is a kid haven before you even go there.

        • RayanneGraff says:

          If I go to Chuck-E-Cheese’s, McDonald’s, Burger King, basically any place with a built-in playground, I expect to hear screaming brats. When I go to a place like Olive Garden, the Outback, or even Applebee’s(basically any place that serves beer/drinks), I expect people to either leave their kids at home or at least control their behavior.

          Parents, I know you think it’s adorable when little Johnny & Jenny ‘express themselves through screams, but nobody else does. Teach your brats to shut the hell up in public.

    • zandar says:

      we have this innovation which might interest you. Children have gender now. I know, right? So each child is now either a he or she. If you aren’t sure which to use, you can use the plural “they.”

      Personally, I only use “it” to describe offspring of animals whose anatomy makes gender immediately unclear, or when a child has become carrion, feeding worms and birds and whatnot. Coincidentally, that’s the vibe I usually get from anti-breeders who liberally refer to kids as “it” as if I would be impressed by their advanced use of cynicism.

    • Bohemian says:

      If your kid is screaming, remove it from the situation (with the obvious exception of an airplane). The parent in the article is just a lazy crappy parent. If your kid is screaming you might not be able to stop the screaming but you sure can remove them from the restaurant until they calm down.

      Don’t even get me started on people who let their kids run wild in restaurants…..

    • sixsevenco says:

      I agree with you. Every restaurant should do this. Of course your comment sounds like whining to me, so they should kick you out too…

    • dolemite says:

      I recall when my little brothers started fighting in a restaraunt. My mom took the troublemakers out to the car and they sat there the entire meal, and we got her food as takeout.

    • Leksi Wit says:

      Referring to children as “it” makes a funny point that they’re more bestial than human. I like it to some extent, especially if we are referring to the unruly progeny (thanks Womynist!) that acts like animals. I’ve seen this in many public places, including grocery stores and libraries, where unruly behavior is inappropriate. Kids need an outlet of course, that’s why we have playgrounds, parks, gyms, etc. There’s an appropriate time and place for certain behavior and it is the parents’/guardians’ responsibility to keep their children in check or if they can’t, to remove them from that environment until they can (or perhaps avoid it altogether until they can).

      • iamspoo says:

        Using the word ‘it’ for children whose gender isn’t specified or matter is using the word ‘it’ in proper context.

        You remind me of a time I got in a fight with my step mom for referring to an illegitimate child as a bastard *in proper context* because she thought I was calling the child a name instead of the proper usage.

        Just because you believe it is improper doesn’t actually make it improper.

        • mattarse says:

          I used to love when my mother would introduce me to her friends and I would tell them I’m her bastard child!

      • Snowblind says:

        It puts lotion on it’s diaper rash, or it gets the hose again!

      • dg says:

        If the kid is well-behaved, then it’s a “Little Lady” or “Little Gentleman”. When the child is not well-behaved and I’m not sure what the gender is (because who can tell with small children these days) – then I use “It”, or sometimes “Demonspawn”.

        As for checking genitalia to determine gender – uh huh, yeah, you go right ahead and do that with some kid that’s screaming in a restaurant. In about 3 seconds, you’ll have the female hellhound and her husband beating the crap out of you, the rest of the patrons screaming “CHILD MOLESTER” and you’ll be going to a PMITA prison for a long time…

        Given all that – isn’t “IT” just so much nicer of an option? *grin*

    • organicgardener says:

      Yeah…We never, ever let our kids just scream away in public. The one or two times they tried it, they were removed from the situation by one parent while the other one finished the errand. If the parent was alone, the child was just removed and we finished later. They actually learned pretty quickly how to act in public…only took about 2 times, you have to be consistent.

  9. jimmyhl says:

    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Oy veh! That’s why we have to kick ‘em out, lady.

  10. SkokieGuy says:

    But whining adults are permitted?

    • jimmyhl says:

      Business is business.

    • speedwell (propagandist and secular snarkist) says:

      Well, you don’t want to throw out the owner or the staff.

    • pecan 3.14159265 says:

      I don’t think it’s whining if you want to pay for your meal and dine in peace just like everyone else. If you’re responsible for the screaming children, you’re ruining everyone else’s experience. Why should parents of misbehaving children be allowed to let their children misbehave?

    • Rectilinear Propagation says:

      They’re not getting complaints about whining adults.

    • Miss Dev (The Beer Sherpa) says:

      The sign says: “Notice to all children and adults: there will be no crying, screaming, whining…”

      So, I’m guessing not :-)

    • Sparty999 says:

      how about adults who are rude to waitresses, or chew with their mouth open, or tip poorly… If any restaurant hinted to me that if my children didn’t behave I might be kicked out… you can better believe i would walk out right then, and tell every friend imaginable about the ridiculous policy.

      • watch me boogie says:

        You think it’s a “ridiculous” policy, others think it’s a beautiful thing. If a restaurant wants to take the risk of ejecting those with screaming children, it’s pretty obvious they don’t want the business of people with screaming children. Luckily, we live in a free market society and we all have a variety of dining establishments to choose from. So there you go.

      • holden190 says:

        And I would respond by telling all my friends to eat there.

      • Marshmelly says:

        good? then we would all be sparred having to listen to a screaming child while we are trying to enjoy our meals. your point?

      • RayanneGraff says:

        Lemme guess, your kids don’t misbehave, they “express themselves”, right?

      • dolemite says:

        I think that’s the point.

        You: “Well, I’ll be durned if a restaurant told me they didn’t want my business if I can’t control my children. I’ll be taking my business elsewhere, and telling my friends with hellions that they should avoid the place too!”

        Carolina Beach: “Success!”

        • Fafaflunkie Plays His World's Smallest Violin For You says:

          Congratulations! You just made Brenda Armes’s day. Methinks you win the internet today. Now that you’ve won it, can you perhaps ban any reference to Jersey Shore, Justin Beiber, or Paris Hilton? Much obliged!

      • TheRealDeal says:

        Sparty, not to sound rude but if you did walk out, I’d wave as you left. When you told all of your friends of the “ridiculous” policy, I’d bet your childless friends would want the name and address of the restaurant. The things that you mentioned are certainly rude, but by and large, do not negatively affect my dining experience. Loud, obnoxious children do.

        • pawnblue says:

          Do we really hate kids this much as a society?

          I feel like the drive for adults to avoid being inconvenienced by the noise of a whiny child to be only slightly less selfish than a screaming 2 year old.

          They are kids. They are the future. Maybe if we, as adults, didn’t like to point the finger and parents, judge them, then try to make life more difficult for those parents, then maybe as a whole, we’d be on a better social track.

          Instead, I hear kids whining everywhere. Some of them might be in their 20s though, and they haven’t quite grown up yet.

          • SuperSnackTime says:

            Yes, we do.

          • EFGearman says:

            Hate children? No.

            Hate the parents that will not control their children? Yes.

            Please note that is different from can not. “Can not” implies there is something about the child that is uncontrollable and while that may not be immediately evident to others, does somewhat excuse the parent.

            Will not has no excuse.

  11. esk42 says:

    This is the best idea I have ever seen. I hope it catches on.

  12. Hungry Dog says:

    I would eat there knowing there would not be any screaming crotch fruit.

  13. Rachacha says:

    As a parent with two young children (6&9), this is fine with me. I generally try to keep the kids in line and make sure that they behave in an appropriate way based on the type of restaurant, and there are times when the kids are tired or are simply in “one of those moods” where a subdued but stern “stop it” instruction will not suffice. A have on many occasions taken both of my kids outside so I could they could whine and scream all they want without disturbing people and so I could tell them that they are not behaving appropriately. When they calm down, we can go back into the restaurant and enjoy our meal.

    • ARP says:

      Exactly. We all know, even the best parents will have a child who will act up and they might not be able to stop them (although this is probably much rarer than parents say). But rather than let me listen to the parents negotiate with them or try to reward them for behaving (which explains a lot about the current status of our kids), take them outside and either calm them down. Or if they’re inconsolable, get your stuff to-go and leave.

    • mechteach1 says:

      +1 this. My kids are 4 & 6, and we treat them in exactly the same way. The 6-year-old is always easy, but if the 4-year-old has had an exhausting day (or something), it is *our* responsibility to make sure that he doesn’t bother anyone else.

      My only issue with the original post is that it is sure to bring out the child-hater posters, but, meh, what can you do? I can stop my children’s tantrums and whines, but I can’t stop the tantrums of other adults.

      • macruadhi says:

        You CAN stop adult tantrums, I can teach you how. It requires a a swift blow to some part of the head. Repeated blows may be necessary or desired depending on your mood.

    • myCatCracksMeUp says:

      I only have one problem with your comment and that is about your kids being tired. It’s fairly reasonable to expect a nine yo to behave even if they’re tired, but if they’re 5 and under, then you should REALLY try to not go out to restaurants (nor most other places) when they’re tired. It’s just not fair to them to drag them out and about when they’re tired. Not saying you do it, but I see so many parents that drag their little kids around all day long because they (the parents) want to shop, eat out, etc, and then they get mad! at the kids when the kids start mis-behaving. This is just stupid parenting.

      • mowz says:

        +1

      • Rachacha says:

        I agree, but sometimes life happens. You are away from home, caught in traffic, were delayed for some reason, were on vacation, soccer practice after school…the list can go on and on. With my 2 kids, I know they can act completely differently. We may decite to go out for dinner at a reasonable time while both kids were awake and in a good mood. We drive to the restaurant, and they both fall asleep on the way to the restaurant because of the drone and movement of the car. My daughter (the younger one) once she wakes up is chipper and in a good mood having just had a 15 minute power nap. My son, forget it, he will often be in a terrible mood having his nap interrupted. We know this, and we know how to handle them to get them into a more agreeable mood.

      • bsh0544 says:

        My kid gets much easier to handle when properly fed. My parents said the same of me. Don’t know if it’s a universal thing, but that’s the impression I have.

    • Miss Dev (The Beer Sherpa) says:

      +1

      The problem really isn’t with the kids acting up. Even the best behaved kids will once in a while. It’s with parents who are unable/unwilling to parent their children.

    • kathygnome says:

      Exactly! That’s how I was brought up. Not only is it polite to other people, but it also teaches that there are consequences to behavior.

    • watch me boogie says:

      On behalf of the general public, THANK YOU! Your effort is very much appreciated & you rock for being considerate.

      I mean, we completely understand when a little kid is tired, frustrated, uncomfortable etc. and cannot be quieted until they get whatever it is they want/need – and I’m sure parents really aren’t happy about having their kids screaming and being impossible in public. Taking kids outside is the best thing for everybody and it’d be great if more people did it. (Is it me being nostalgic, or was it once standard procedure to take crying kids outside?)

      Too bad there aren’t parachutes for kids who won’t stop screaming on long flights. (Just kidding…mostly.)

    • Zydia says:

      Your description reminds me of a few adults I’ve known.

    • Conformist138 says:

      This is exactly right. My parents did the same thing. As the “good” child, I was almost never removed, though I remember my little brother (the handful of the family) being taken by mom or dad out to the car on several occasions.

      My folks also threatened to just take us home if we misbehaved, but it never had to come to that.

      For all the parents on here agreeing with that idiot mother in the article: you can’t help if the kids scream, correct, it happens, but you choose to be a parent and you choose to take the consequences. Not every individual in an entire restaurant should be stuck dealing with your “just ignore it and eventually they’ll stop” parenting techniques.

  14. TouchMyMonkey says:

    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Uh, yes you can. You can tell your kids to STFU. Or if that isn’t working, or it’s taking awhile, you can get a sitter. Or you can stay home until the kids can behave. I don’t need to listen to your screaming kids while I’m trying to hold a quiet dinner conversation with my better half. If I have to, I will stay home. I have a gas grill. I like to cook. I don’t have to spend $$$ on restaurants where the atmosphere can be rather charitably described as “unpleasant.”

    So, until the state legislature says otherwise, I applaud this particular restaurant owner and defend his right to maintain a certain decorum in his establishment.

  15. BuyerOfGoods3 says:

    This is just beautiful. My mother would NOT take us out if we could not control ourselves — We got the point pretty fast.

    I want to vacation in NC just to eat here. Anyone live around there who can vouch for the grub? :)

    • The hand that feeds, now with more bacon says:

      I live on the opposite side of the Cape Fear River from there. I’ve never been to the place in question (I will now that I’ve seen the article), but there’s a lot of good food in the area.

      My favorite place for informal dining is Flaming Amy’s Burrito Barn.

      • The hand that feeds, now with more bacon says:

        Flaming Amy’s also has a rule against screaming children.

      • freshyill says:

        I prefer Flaming Amy’s Bowl. Check it out if you’ve never been there. It’s a pick-your-own-ingredients stir-fry place. I just moved away from the area, and it’s one of the things I miss most.

      • textilesdiva says:

        Ugh.
        I’ve been to Flaming Amy’s, after hearing years of hype.
        It so did not live up to all that was said.

        …Just stick to Baja Burrito in Raleigh and (in my case), not drive 2hrs for an inferior burrito.

  16. NoRegrets78 says:

    BRAVO to the owners for taking a stand! Wish more restaurants would adopt that policy.

  17. 24gotham says:

    Can they do this for flying and trips to Ikea?

    • scouts honor says:

      The screaming kids at Ikea are really bother me, since they have an indoor playroom specifically for the little hellions.

      As for kids on airplanes, the airline that starts handing out free Benedryl lollipops will get all my business.

    • Raekwon says:

      Movie theaters please! Strangely there usually are more misbehaved children in PG13 and up movies than ones like SpongeBob or Toy Story.

      • Framling says:

        My wife and I now go to about half the movies we see at the Cinebarre up north of us. They serve food and (more importantly) alcohol. Since, in Washington state at least, children aren’t allowed in establishments that serve alcohol, we can go there to watch Harry Potter and Pixar movies in peace. It’s awesome.

    • You-Me-Us says:

      I’ve said for years that I’d gladly pay double to fly 21 & Up Airlines.

  18. dc0845 says:

    HURRAY!!! I wish this place was near me. I’d be a regular. What a pleasure to not hear screaming kids. What really pisses me off is when the kids make a scene and the parents do absolutely nothing or think it’s “cute”. I’d also like to ban some parents.

  19. humphrmi says:

    A lot of folks caught the (stupid) quote “You can’t help it if your kids scream.” As a parent of three, age 6, 8 and 13, I agree with the commenters… yes, you can help it.

    My 13 year-old didn’t get to go with us to restaurants for years when he was 5-6 years old, because he misbehaved too much (and every time, got taken outside.) And he tells his siblings about it now.

    Parents need to adult up, not try to just be friends with their kids, impose rules, and enforce them, and yes – sometimes be the heavy, and leave with them.

  20. MrEvil says:

    My parents could help it when my sister and I started fussing…They helped by delivering a quick tug on the arm to grab our attention.

  21. Elcheecho says:

    slightly off topic, but it really bothered me when large (or even ones with just one kid) families would come into the restaurant, make a huge mess of the table and the floor, and leave a negligible tip. I get that you’re tired and you’re paying for the privilege of not cleaning up by going out to a restaurant, but your server/busboy is getting the same lousy tip from regular two party tables who eat like normal people and get most of the food into their mouths. if you’re going to go out, pay the person who has to clean up a little extra.

    • Big Mama Pain says:

      That is a really good point. This is really high up on the list of pet peeves to servers-for some reason, a lot of parents allow their children to make absolutely disgusting messes on and under the table, and these people are generally average or below average tippers. And we’re not talking normal messes that small kids make when eating-it’s like, letting your child smear ketchup into the cracks of the table, smashing crackers into clay lumps that wind up inside the sugar caddy and everywhere else, ripping up napkins, handling and mouthing the salt and pepper shakers…ugh. Yeah,

      • RayanneGraff says:

        There is a special seat in hell reserved for parents who treat the condiments & sugar packets as toys. My mom used to do this when my sister was a toddler. We’d go out to eat & she’d actually HAND her the little bin of sweeteners & the salt/pepper shakers. Then, when sissy would make a hellacious mess, I’d say something to my mom about it & my mom would say “Oh whatever, it’s their JOB to clean it up!”

        En-fucking-furiating.

    • Copper says:

      This is exactly why there’s a 15-20% gratuity on large parties and that’s exactly why I love it. If I’m going to make $80+ off your table, you can spread ketchup wherever you want so long as you don’t puke/shit/piss anywhere.

  22. donovanr says:

    Yes but are they willing to endure the PC crap when they rightfully kick an autistic kid out? I was in a restaurant with one the other day who would let out a very loud whoop every minute or so. It really sucked. Yes it sucks for the parents of the kid but I would go out of my way to support a restaurant that kicked him out.

    • peebozi says:

      i thought all kids today are “autistic”….no?

      • dolemite says:

        Exactly..it’s the new “ADD”. If your kid is hyperactive and full of energy, while being rude and disruptive and displaying no manners, they have “ADD”. If they are quiet and pensive and well behaved, they are “Autistic”.

        My ex worked with Autistic children, and it is actually pretty rare, despite what the media says. Testing had changed, which is why we have more “autistic” kids, but a majority of them are just mild cases like a child repeating movements are being extremely shy in public. Most of them are extremely intelligent, but they can’t really interact with people.

        • AstroPig7 says:

          OCD is another diagnosis on the rise. As someone who actually has OCD, I’m happy to see autism getting all of the attention.

        • LadyTL says:

          Intelligent but having trouble with interacting with people sounds alot like Asperger’s which is a valid diagnosis. It isn’t quite autism but is related. Just because someone is capable of coping does not mean there isn’t a real problem behind things.

        • DocOtter says:

          As somebody who actually has high-functioning autism, this latest trend of self diagnosing and over diagnosing by non-specialists ticks me right off. Its inappropriate, wasteful, and in this instance nonsensical.

      • rbb says:

        That, and allergic to peanuts…

    • pecan 3.14159265 says:

      In a situation like that, I can understand how it’s just simply impossible for that kid to NOT make that noise…but the parents have to understand that his situation is the exception, not the rule. If he’s going to make that kind of noise, the parents could have done everyone else a favor and asked to be seated in a more isolated part of the restaurant. The owner could offer to reseat them in a more isolated part of the restaurant. That way they can still have dine there and not disturb others.

      The key is that the parents can’t feel entitled just because their child is autistic.

    • savvy9999 says:

      Acronym overload alert: IANAL but IMO they will be violating the ADA if they kick out anyone or refuse to make reasonable accommodation for a handicapped person. And if push came to shove, what court (legal or the one that matters most, public opinion) is not going to find severe autism to not be a handicap?

      Kicking out autistic or otherwise mentally handicapped children would be over the line.

      • catskyfire says:

        The ADA is weak on public accommodations aspects. There are the building codes that are put in (post 1990, if you build/remodel, it has to be handicapped accessible.), but not much is regulated regarding other aspects of disability. At least a few states have nothing for disability under the public accommodation laws they enforce. (The accessibility one might go to the Department of Justice for enforcement.)

        Technically, in those states, a restaurant could refuse to serve or eject a patron with a disability.

        • speedwell (propagandist and secular snarkist) says:

          Just to stir the pot… if the disability involved sudden loss of bladder control, say, and the disabled person’s preparations were absent or inadequate, what would the restaurant be able to do?

          • catskyfire says:

            Under the law I know (I’m very familiar with my state, not as familiar with other states or cities.): The restaurant could kick them out. They couldn’t force them to clean up, but they could kick them out. They could also kick them out just for being disabled.

    • SpeckledJim says:

      It sucked for you for a few minutes, I’m sure when that child was born he was thinking “I’d like to have autism so I can inconvenience some person at a restaurant in a few years” I am all for parents controlling their typically developing children, if they scream it is because they are allowed to scream, but children who have disabilities don’t have them to inconvenience others. Their disability inconveniences them every day of their life.

    • dg says:

      I would. I sympathize with the issues of autism – but honestly, that’s NOT MY PROBLEM. I’m here to run a restaurant. If you have a child that can’t help but make noises and bothers everyone, then stay home. Your problem is NOT our problem, nor should it be.

      Same deal with a restaurant where the doors aren’t wide enough for a wheelchair to get in. No reason why they should be forced to widen doorways or make any changes. Does it suck? Yeah. Is it fair to everyone? No. But you know what? Live sucks, and isn’t fair. The sooner people realize this, the sooner we can stop screwing around with trying to figure out what a vague law means…

  23. Clyde Barrow says:

    Oh I love this woman that put up this sign and good for her.

    As for the other woman saying that you can’t help it if kids scream? Arrrrrrggggggg!

    Don’t tell my mom that or she’ll rip yer head off. When my mom spoke, the matter was over. There was no more opinions or crying on the subject it was her way or the paddle. My brother and sister and me didn’t even go out to the grocery store or a restaurant until we were about five years old for a couple of reasons; babies don’t belong in public places so we were left home until we were old enough and we also needed to prove that we could handle ourselves in public. A restaurant is NOT a children’s bedroom (as some think).

  24. peebozi says:

    I don’t know what her problem is! How can she judge all the bratty children and compare those spawn to my beautiful Skylar? My little Schuyler crying sounds like angels singing…and he’s so cute when he’s screaming and running all over the place without a care in the world. I guess this woman doesn’t want the benefit of experiencing my Schuylar…oh well, everyone on the plane tonight will thank me after they hear Skyalar’s singing/crying performance!

  25. Miss Dev (The Beer Sherpa) says:

    I already plan on doing this when I open my brewpub…

    I have 4 nieces and they have all been raised to behave in public. Beyond that, if they do have a meltdown, my siblings promptly remove them from the restaurant/theatre/store. No bribing or ignoring their behavior: just parenting.

  26. ames says:

    “the female owner” – Really, Ben? Why not just “the owner”?

    A similar thing happened in my old Chicago neighborhood a few years ago: http://www.nytimes.com/2005/11/09/national/09bakery.html

    OH THE UPROAR. And yet they’re somehow still open, proving that family friendly does not have to equal screaming rambunctious children. Lots of families with kids eat there. I ate there all the time. Never once saw a misbehaved child.

    • BuyerOfGoods3 says:

      Eh — If it’s a woman, it’s immediately granted leniency.

      ;)

    • pecan 3.14159265 says:

      I saw that, too, and thought that it was unusual but I think the first thing a lot of commenters would think is that the owner was a man and the stereotype is that women are more nurturing or at least tolerant to children, so I don’t really see the problem with pointing out the fact that she’s a woman. Most people don’t have the attention span to actually read the linked article.

      • ames says:

        In my opinion, that stereotype is exactly why it should have just been “the owner”. There was zero need to specify that the owner is a woman, other than the “omg she’s supposed to be nurturing and love children, can you believe this?!” implication.

    • Rectilinear Propagation says:

      Oh my lord, this line from the article: “I think that the mothers who allow their kids to run around and scream, that’s wrong, but kids scream and there is nothing you can do about it. What are we supposed to do, not enjoy ourselves at a cafe?”

      Really? REALLY?

      • RayanneGraff says:

        If you’ve raised a hellspawn that won’t behave in public & that you refuse to discipline, yes, you LOSE the right to enjoy yourself at a cafe!

        Lol, the entitlements of some people…

    • empehi says:

      I remember that! And after the story hit the NYT, the owner(s) started getting emails and faxes of support from all over. For a while they papered their windows with them, until they ran out of room. It was a beautiful sight.

    • smo0 says:

      That’s my bad, I sent this in with the “headline” that it was a female owner. It IS relevant, and for comments mentioned below mine… people tend to drink it down easier when they see an older woman pushing grandmother age complaining about screaming children.

      “If grandma can’t stand it, IT MUST BE WRONG.”

      That’s the way I see it. The gender bias cannot be used in this argument, we can actually stick to the point at hand….. it just goes to show you – if you’re have a problem with a topic, then get a “gender appropriate” “pr” person to lessen the blow. It’s the best tactic you have.

      • ames says:

        it is NOT relevant. Period. And I’m not saying that all gender-specific words should be erased from the article, I’m saying that the fact that she was a woman did not need to be emphasized – “the female owner” is emphasis. “The owner” is not.

        For the record, I don’t see a flood of comments “below yours” proving your point at all.

        • smo0 says:

          Personally, I think it’s relevant… if it was declared “the owner” and said owner was male… at least half of these comments would be switched to “typical guys don’t know how to care for children.”

          I guess we could never know the outcome, but the proof to back me up is those “public breast feeding” threads where the owner of the store was male… look at that back lash….

          … there are my floods of comments you so speak of.

  27. SlyPhox says:

    I recall a time when I went to Red Lobster by myself while traveling on business. The place was pretty dead but for some reason the hostess decided I needed to sit at this little piss table in the corner right next to a gigantic table full of screaming kids and adults. I politely declined the table and sat at the bar instead. I now wonder why I even bothered with trying to get a table.

    The bartender ended up being an awesome guy and made the experience much better.

    • TechnicallySpeaking says:

      Bar >>>>>>> Table

      In almost every situation, sitting at the bar will garner better, faster, more attentive service, and if you’re chatty, the occasional free drink. The g/f and I never sit at a table when there are two seats next to each other at the bar.

      • Big Mama Pain says:

        Ditto; bartenders don’t really leave the bar, so they can’t neglect to give you excellent service. They also tend to have awesome personalities-but don’t sit at a bar to eat a meal if you don’t drink alcohol. That’s just taking up prime real estate.

    • shepd says:

      Had that happen to me as Swiss Chalet. Beside the only other people in the restaurant. A “caregiver” that spent the entire meal on her cellphone with two young girls that constantly bothered me and my wife the entire meal because their caregiver wouldn’t even stop talking on her phone for a couple of seconds to answer if they can go to the bathroom.

      I tipped $0.50, because if you tip nothing, or a couple of pennies, they think you forgot to tip. I didn’t forget. You just didn’t deserve any tip apart from “Don’t sit people next to obviously terrible ‘parents’ and their brats if the restaurant is empty, even if it means you have to walk a little bit, lazy”.

  28. grapedog says:

    And then a whole bunch of idiotic women wanting to breast feed in public stampeded towards the place and had a sit in, in protest?

    Oh… wrong story.

  29. redskull says:

    Now if this would just catch on at movie theaters… I’ve had it with ass clowns who insist on bringing babies into the theater, expecting them to lie silently in a dark, noisy auditorium for two hours. Get a frakkin’ sitter, or stay home. Your movie remake will be on DVD in a month anyway.

    • Brunette Bookworm says:

      Some theaters are starting to have evening shows where kids aren’t allowed.

    • Happy Tinfoil Cat says:

      A guy with a screaming baby was asked to take the baby outside. On the third time, the management asked him to leave, whereas he stood up in the front of the theater and went on a five minute tirade about what a bunch of losers we were for complaining. At $10 a head, there is no excuse for that. Many theaters even have “cry rooms”, soundproof rooms with a large window into the theater and sound piped in. I used to use the cry rooms for us just so we didn’t have to listen to the dorks on their cell phones.

  30. scratchie says:

    I don’t think I’m in the minority on this one, but I think this is a fine idea. Any restauranteur (or restauranteusse) has the right to establish and enforce standards of acceptable behavior. And the mother who said “You can’t help it if kids scream” is an idiot. For very young kids, you can’t help it if they scream once or twice, but if they keep screaming, it’s your responsibility (if you want to be considered a member of polite society) to quiet them down or take them outside, and, more importantly, to teach them how to behave in a public place.

    And, for the record, I’m the parent of twin two-year-olds who are almost always a delight to dine out with. We take them to nice restaurants fairly often and have had only a handful of incidents where one of us had to take one of the kids outside to calm down.

  31. Rocket80 says:

    Now let’s ban kids from movie theaters (teenagers included) and watch business boom again.

  32. Warren - aka The Piddler on the Roof says:

    Can we bring back spankings, too?

  33. vastrightwing says:

    I’ll go there! I’ve had to resort to spending a fortune so I can eat in peace. Mostly at expensive restaurants, you won’t find parents willing to spend the money to take their brood there.

  34. Sparty999 says:

    There are restaurants that are high enough class where Children shouldn’t be welcome… any restaurant with so little class as to put a gaudy sign like the one shown, thinks too much of themselves.

    I hate people who hate kids. Even though my kids are very well behaved, you can tell the servers who don’t like kids, and it ruins the experience.

    • humphrmi says:

      It’s hard to tell from the wording of your comment, but I hope you are not equating a business’ expectation of appropriate behavior in their establishment with “hating kids”. If you aren’t, no worries. If you are, you’ve got a lot of parents comments on this post who disagree with you.

    • Rectilinear Propagation says:

      any restaurant with so little class as to put a gaudy sign like the one shown, thinks too much of themselves

      It isn’t a matter of thinking the restaurant is higher class than it actually is, it’s a matter of having too many complaints about the noise from kids.

    • JulesNoctambule says:

      So expecting kids to behave, expecting parents to teach them appropriate public behaviour and having consequences for them when they create an uncomfortable situation for other patrons in a restaurant is ‘hating kids’? News to me.

    • RayanneGraff says:

      I fully admit that as a rule- I hate kids. BFD. They’re annoying, loud, obnoxious, and they stink.

      But- I LIKE kids that know how to behave. I think everyone does, in fact.

  35. Warren - aka The Piddler on the Roof says:

    I went out to eat with a friend last weekend at a nice place. A mom and dad walked in with two kids, a boy and a girl, both about one and a half maybe. The waitress seated them right across from us and…

    …the kids were perfect angels. I didn’t hear a peep from either of them. Bravo to the parents AND the kids.

    So it IS possible to raise kids that aren’t whiny, screeching brats. My guess is that it just takes brains, patience and instilling a little discipline in them. Unfortunately, this is pretty rare these days from what I’ve seen.

    • PunditGuy says:

      Last time that happened to me, I complimented the parents on the way out of the restaurant.

      • humphrmi says:

        My kids have been flying since they were toddlers, and have grown accustomed to it. So they don’t cry, scream, kick seats, etc. Every flight we take, at least one passenger compliments my wife and me about our kids’ behavior. Nice.

        They’re also well behaved in restaurants (well, except places like Chuck-E-Cheese, naturally) but we don’t get so many compliments from restaurant patrons.

  36. jbandsma says:

    This is great. Sorry, but I don’t think kids belong everywhere. As to the “parents who couldn’t control their kids”…please change that couldn’t to WOULDN’T. That’s more the case.

    And I would hate to be anywhere near the kids of that mother who says you can’t help it if your kids scream. Yes you can, you’re just too damn lazy to do it.

  37. dwtomek says:

    Now if movie theatres would follow suit I might actually consider catching a movie here and there.

  38. PureRainbowPower says:

    YES

  39. MacRtst says:

    This Is glorious!

    I am tired of this culture where I need to be MORE tolerant because you are LESS of a parent.

    • slimeburg says:

      Nice! I agree. On a related note I’m also tired of living in a culture where I have to work harder so others can work less (or not at all) and enjoy govt. entitlements.

      • LadyTL says:

        So if you make less than a living wage or get fired you won’t be applying for unemployment benefits or any form of government aid at all?

        • j_rose says:

          Shocking, but plenty of people don’t. I didn’t when I was underemployed. At one point, I considered filing for disability since I had to leave work because of my disability, but I couldn’t bear the thought of it and instead kept trying to find a job that I could do, until I did. Now I make about 4 times what I was making before I had to quit that job.

          ZOMG. Not everyone believes in living off other people, even when they’re having a hard time.

        • j_rose says:

          Shocking, but plenty of people don’t. I didn’t when I was underemployed. At one point, I considered filing for disability since I had to leave work because of my disability, but I couldn’t bear the thought of it and instead kept trying to find a job that I could do, until I did. Now I make about 4 times what I was making before I had to quit that job.

          ZOMG. Not everyone believes in living off other people, even when they’re having a hard time.

          • LadyTL says:

            As for your living off of other people comment, unless you live in the country with no streets, public water or public sewer, you are still using the benefits of others money through taxes. It’s not a terrible thing to get help if you can’t afford food and shelter off of one months pay.

  40. Rectilinear Propagation says:

    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Even if that were true, should the restaurant owner care? Screaming kids are not a protected class, and they were bad for business. Causing a disruption is a perfectly legitimate reason for a business to ask you to leave. It’s not like they have to stay gone; just stay outside until the crying/screaming stops.

    I don’t see why anyone, even parents, would find this unreasonable.

  41. XStylus says:

    > Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign
    > and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Uh, yeah you can. It’s called spanking.

    Wait, nevermind, I forgot this is the 21st Century. Any form of effective child discipline is considered abuse nowadays.

    • scratchie says:

      Hell yeah! Because spanking is the only form of effective discipline evar!

      • RayanneGraff says:

        It sure worked on me and my sister. I never got ‘time outs’ or any other form of wuss punishment, and guess what- I behaved.

        • scratchie says:

          Wow, that’s really interesting.

        • pecan 3.14159265 says:

          My mom preferred verbal punishments. I think the entire neighborhood could hear her yelling. Personally, I can just see myself adding “frak” to all of my yelling. My mom never swore, but I don’t think I could resist it if I were that angry at my kids. “Frak” is probably a good compromise.

        • NatalieErin says:

          My brother and I were never spanked, and we both behaved. Spanking isn’t some sort of panacea anymore than it’s heinous child abuse.

  42. MarkSweat says:

    Step 1 – Take kids to restaraunt
    Step 2 – Eat meal
    Step 3 – Get kids to scream
    Step 4 – Get thrown out – earn free meal

    • Rectilinear Propagation says:

      How does getting thrown out mean not paying? Besides, they’re only being asked to take the kid outside until they calm down. They’re welcome to come back in after and finish the meal.

    • MishunAcomplisht says:

      Step 4 should be get sued for the cost of everyone else’s meals you ruined.

  43. pinkbunnyslippers says:

    Oh I love this. Especially for the parents who trot their kids out at 9pm on a school night and wonder why they’re acting up.

    • Disappointed says:

      Sometimes, I go to Denny’s really late at night–say, midnight to one AM–as they’re one of the few eating establishments open. The last two times I’ve been there in the wee hours, there have been parents there with children younger than 10. It boggles the mind.

      • pinkbunnyslippers says:

        I’m glad to see I’m not the only one who is completely appalled. On another note, I feel just like a grandma now.

      • Corinthos says:

        The last two times I been at IHOP there up at have been kids acting up at 3 am. The last time there was a chubby girl running back and forth down the aisles screaming and all this girls mom did was tell her to sit her ass down twice but never got up. She came up to our table and put her mouth on the side up if and my friend turned around and asked her mom if she could please control her child. The mom got angry and told us that the kid had downs and just let the kid run around more.

  44. JayPhat says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.” Yes you can. As a parent you should be able to midly control your kids. This is to prevent the parents who just let their kids sit there and make a scene like nothing is going on, and I for one support it.

  45. dbeahn says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Yes, you can. It’s called “parenting”. If you aren’t able to get the kid under control, take the kid outside until he or she calms down. I remember quite clearly being taken out of stores or movie theaters when I was misbehaving as a kid, and the shame of it. What I learned, pretty quickly, was how to behave myself in public.

    I’d totally go out of my way to patronize a place with a policy like this.

  46. RayanneGraff says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    YES YOU CAN. It’s called parenting. Try it some time. Unless your child is in horrible pain, there is NO reason for them to be screaming.

  47. Bodger says:

    I don’t go to the Carolina shore very often even though it isn’t all that far but you can be sure that I’ll be giving this place some more trade the next time I drive through the area. I’ve bookmarked the original article so that I won’t lose the name and I’m going to add them to the POI list in my GPS as soon as I can.

    I’m waiting for the flood of shocked reply posts from parents protesting that having polite children is not possible and not even worth an attempt. To them I say . . .

  48. Horselady says:

    YAY, HALLELUJAH,
    AND
    PRAISE THE LORD,
    IT’S ABOUT TIME

  49. Holybalheadedchrist! says:

    OK, I get it. As a parent of a three year old, I understand that not everyone wants to be there when she loses her cool and goes completely apeshit. I can’t always fix that for you other adults, but I do my best. So yeah, I wouldn’t go out to this restaurant with my kid. However, when she’s grown, I still wouldn’t go to this place–this restaurant that made it very clear, we weren’t wanted. Guess that works for both of us.

    • RayanneGraff says:

      Here’s a thought- why not teach your kid not to “go apeshit” instead of getting offended when other people don’t like it?

      And don’t tell me a 3 year old is too young to be taught how to act right. I’ve been teaching my sister good manners since she was 1 & believe me- if you’re willing to teach, they will learn.

      • Holybalheadedchrist! says:

        Yes, because at 1, “learnin’ how to behave” is foremost in their mind. Spoken like a true, non-parent.

    • JulesNoctambule says:

      Your child isn’t unwanted if she’s able to behave herself. Not all children are screaming, poorly-behaved wrecks. Only those children and the parents who refuse to correct their behaviour are not desired as patrons.

      • Holybalheadedchrist! says:

        What I’m objecting to is the notion that parents of children who misbehave know that their children are going to misbehave before they enter a restaurant. Sometimes that’s true, sometimes not. Once we were sitting at a restaurant when our daughter freaked out and couldn’t stop crying. We left, she cried the whole way home, and it was only when we got home that we realized she’d been stung by a bee in the middle of her back. I’m sure that restaurant’s patrons weren’t excited about us trying to console her for the first few minutes, but you don’t always know why they are crying. The folk on here that claim otherwise are either non-parents who just want to complain about other people’s kids, or awful parents.

        • pecan 3.14159265 says:

          The notion isn’t that parents should be mind readers; the notion is that if the situation arises where a kid is going crazy and disrupting everyone else’s meal, the parents should take them outside – the fact that a sign is necessary is ridiculous and shows the entitled attitude a lot of parents have. It’s not a problem if a kid starts going nuts and parents take them outside, but it is a problem when a kid goes nuts and the parents do nothing about it, like they’re absolutely powerless to take their kid out the door.

  50. ap0 says:

    Ain’t nothin’ wrong with this. Parents today think their kids belong with them everywhere they go, and this is most certainly not the case.

  51. thor79 says:

    Bravo…like any other obnoxious activity the business has the right to throw them out. You can control screaming children, if you can’t then it’s your own damn fault for doing a poor job raising them. Infants and toddlers are understandable, but anything beyond that shows signs of discipline problems.

    Hope this catches on.

  52. balderdashed says:

    I believe restaurants absolutely should serve children who are inclined to scream — preferably with a dash of salt, a little pepper, and perhaps some caramelized onions. Delicious (a meal that would delight the likes of Jonathan Swift) and perhaps the only real solution to the problem of parents who can’t control their kids’ tantrums.

  53. Chooi says:

    This lady is my hero. And to the one mother who says you can’t help it – you can and should as the parent control your children in public. Just because you had kids and cannot control them doesn’t mean I should have to be subjected to their whining and screaming. Go home and give yourself a headache!

  54. odarkshineo says:

    To be fair NC is a state where people come to die, not so much to live…. (I sadly was born here)

  55. Stahi says:

    We would’ve been fine when I was a kid, then. We would go out to eat a lot and instead of running around the restaurant screaming like every other kid did I was content just to play with my Hot Wheels on the table.

    Could never understand then and can’t understand now what drives kids to run around screaming in a restaurant.

  56. jaredwilliams says:

    “you can’t help it if your kids scream”-signed bad parent.

    If that’s your excuse don’t have kids.

  57. JulesNoctambule says:

    You may not be able to ‘help it’ when your kids scream or act up, but you can sure as hell control what happens after they start. Letting them shriek and run as much as they like inside a restaurant, irritating those around you and creating unsafe conditions for wait staff, does not go very far toward teaching them how to properly behave in public. Few people like a bratty, misbehaving child who never hears the word ‘NO’, but the rude, thoughtless adults they grow into are even less popular.

  58. Kibit says:

    I would visit this restaurant if I lived in the area.

    My Mom and I visited a restaurant in my neighborhood and there was a group of two or three couples and 4 children under 8 years old. The children screamed and cried as well as ran around the restaurant, hiding under tables and even running out the front door. First a Dad would chase the child and then drag them back to the table kicking and screaming than one of the Moms would do it. This dance kept repeating itself. At one point the parents got tried of it and stopped chasing their children and just sat and ate while their children terrorized the entire restaurant.

    The restaurant owners and management did not say or do anything. As soon as our server came back to our table after ignoring us, we asked for our food to be placed in to-go containers and we left. My Mom talked to the restaurant manager about the incident and he just shrugged his shoulders. We left and will not go back.

  59. Cindymiles says:

    I have a 3 year old and I’m all for this lady. Some people are inconsiderate and selfish and they also breed. Good to know that their bad behavior will not be tolerated. Wish it was that way more places.

  60. soldstatic says:

    only new business atm is likely coming from publicity about the sign.

    Which i’m all for, but I highly doubt it will really increase sales in the long term. It does however give your employees more power which is fantastic.

    And that mom that said she can’t help it if your kids scream, needs to learn how to be a better parent.

  61. quieterhue says:

    I support this, but I think it’s sad that a restaurant owner has to put up a sign asking people to adhere to common courtesy. Honestly, people, if your child is going through a phase where he/she is prone to screaming, tantrums, etc., cook dinner at home, leave your child with a sitter, or, if you must take your child to a restaurant, select a family friendly place where a little extra noise won’t bother other diners. This should be obvious without signs.

  62. SmackmYackm says:

    If you teach your kids at an early age that certain behavior is unacceptable then they will learn not to behave that way. I hate to say it, because I hate reality TV shows, but watch one of these “nanny” shows some time. If a child acts like an unruly terror, it’s almost certainly something their parents are doing wrong. Unless the child has some kind of mental defect that causes them to act that way, there is no excuse, and the parents of these types children should be well aware of these problems and be considerate enough to not subject the public to their childs behavior.

    I’ve managed to raise my kids to be well behaved and courtious without any kind of spanking. With the exception that they are now teenagers and filled with raging hormones, they are to this stay well mannered and respectful, most of the time.

    Once my daughter, then 4 years old, watched as an 8 year-old absolutely lost his shit in a restaraunt because he couldn’t have a dessert. She looked at my wife and asked her, “What’s wrong with him?” My wife replied, “He wants dessert, and his mother said no.” My 4 year-old then simply says, “I think I know why.”

    • JulesNoctambule says:

      When other children think you’re child’s a brat, it’s time to reconsider your parenting strategy! One afternoon a few months before my niece turned six, she and her mother and I were out having lunch. There was a girl a little older a few tables away who started throwing a fit; her mother did that ineffective ‘Oh, sweetie, be good’ hushing thing that kids know carries no weight whatsoever. My niece turned around, glared at the misbehaving child and said ‘That girl is NAUGHTY. She needs to go home.’

  63. grizzman says:

    Every single person commenting in this thread was once a child who whined, screamed or annoyed someone. Suck it up people, kids scream and whine sometimes.

    • LadyTL says:

      True and we got taken home alot when we did too with no bribe at all. Good parenting does not mean letting your child grow up with no rules and tons of bribes.

    • tk427 says:

      What you say is completely true. When I was a kid I whined, screamed and annoyed people.

      But not for long!

  64. plumbob says:

    I’ve gotten up and taken my complaints straight to that parents of those screaming obnoxious brats. Does it ever change anything? No! Do the parents get furious? Yes! But damn it at least their dinner is ruined too.

  65. Outrun1986 says:

    If it works good for them, if I lived near this place I would absolutely patronize them. The biggest problem here is kids playing Nintendo DS with the sound all the way up at restaurants. I say this because its happened all of the last 5 times I have gone to eat out, at different restaurants, which is really insane. I love video games as much as the next person, but there are ways around this, like using headphones or turning down the sound so that the game systems don’t disturb other restaurant goers.

    Kids really shouldn’t be running around wrecklessly or screaming uncontrollably anywhere, whether it be a restaurant or a retail store or any public place. If they start, they should be taken outside. I will give a pass to parents who attempt to make it right, or until the screaming child is removed from the establishment. That is how it always went in my family, you misbehaved in public, you have to go outside to sit in the car, then you got punished when you get home. You probably didn’t do it again after that. When kids were too young to understand in my family my parents used their own judgement when to take the kids out in public, if they were overtired whatever was needed that night could wait until the next day as long as it wasn’t an emergency.

  66. YouDidWhatNow? says:

    Most excellent. Maybe you can’t control when your kid goes batshit – but other people can control their desire to be around you when that happens.

    Like restaurant owners.

    Two Brazillian thumbs up.

  67. Donkey Hoti says:

    It’s almost like the free market works. Too bad we didn’t handle smoking this way, instead of tearing up the Constitution.

    • scratchie says:

      Which part of the Constitution is it that guarantees a right to smoke? It must have slipped my mind.

      • LadyTL says:

        Which part says you can’t smoke on private property which restaurants technically are? Where does it say we have to force people to only go to or work at restaurants with smoking everywhere which is how the people behind the anti-smoking laws act as if was true? Anti-smoking laws on restaurants and bars infringe on people’s choice in favor of a group of people whose patronage is optional.

    • YouDidWhatNow? says:

      No, I’m sure they’d throw your kids out for smoking too.

  68. The_Fuzz_53 says:

    Yes you can help if your kid screams. You tell them to knock that shit off and discipline them if they don’t comply.

  69. Hotscot says:

    I certainly think the kid’s owners have the responsibility to teach them how to act while out in public. The lesson has to be instilled at a young age, during the behaviorally formative years.

  70. dru_zod says:

    They should extend this to screaming adults as well. I was in a restaurant last week where I was seated next to a large group that was a mix of kids and adults. Well, one kid down at the end of the table, who was about 10 years old or so was constantly yelling “MOMMY!” at her mother on the other end of the table. She was plenty old enough to know better at her age, but what’s worse is the middle-aged mom was yelling across the table in response! Everyone else at the table was louder than they should have been as well. None of them were yelling like the girl and her mother, but I couldn’t hear myself think until they all left. Some people have zero respect for other people around them.

  71. Erika'sPowerMinute says:

    I wouldn’t go in there–because the sign is off-putting. My kids are well-behaved in restaurants and on planes (they get complimented all the time, swear) but even so, I don’t like the bossy, condescending tone of the sign. If you’re gonna threaten and talk down to me, screw you.

  72. jumpycore says:

    PURE.GENIUS. i cant stand eating and having children screaming in the background, running around. i hate children. i dont want your damn kid bothering me while i eat. to say that you cant control your kid is absurd.

  73. InsomniacZombie says:

    Last time I checked, you CAN control your kids from screaming. It just requires a little something called discipline.

  74. CookiePuss says:

    I wish kids were banned altogether. They should be grown in labs and let loose only after 4 years of college at which point their put into mandatory military service. Damn kids and their voice boxes! GET OFF MY LAWN!

  75. Bruce W says:

    Sure can not help it when your kid is screaming but you owe it to the other patrons to take him/her outside until they claim down! That is what my wife and I did with our kids!!!

  76. sopmodm14 says:

    its a great idea i think, parents are responsible for their children’s actions, and in addition, are reflective of them, so its in everyone’s best interest

    there are other places that are tailored for kids, like fast food franchises with play areas or Dave and Busters or chuck e.cheeses

  77. slimeburg says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Not my problem so why should I have to put up with it – if they won’t shut up leave them at home – and unless you have to take them to another city for life saving medical treatement you better not bring the brats on a plane either!

  78. PAZ002 says:

    That is a restaurant I want to eat at, can’t stand the little monsters screaming

  79. Puddy Tat says:

    You can’t help your kid from screaming – you wanna bet? The children of today are self entitled spoiled little sh*ts!

    And many of the parents if you can actually call them that haven’t a clue! If you’re not ready to control and even discipline your child then you shouldn’t have one!

  80. The Marionette says:

    Good, I can’t say how many times I’ve seen people let their kids just scream. I’m not talking about babies who are more prone to cry and scream, but kids that are at least of 7 yrs of age and they’re just throwing a tantrum.

  81. Fafaflunkie Plays His World's Smallest Violin For You says:

    Hey, Brenda Armes, any chance you’ll open up a restaurant or two in Toronto and adopt the same policy? To not have Miss Precious pipe up in a restaurant else be shown the door (along with the parents who seem to have no consideration for anyone other than themselves) certainly gets my vote.

  82. Mercutio_Jones says:

    I have raised three kids that I could take *anywhere* ….AND one of them has an autism spectrum disorder.

  83. Pax says:

    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Yes, you bloody well can, and your attitude proves you should have your children taken away from you, because you are unfit to be a parent, you stupid good-for-nothing [five-minute stream of expletives, insults, and vomit-inducing metaphors omitted for your sanity] …!!

    When I was a small boy, if I screamed or even just shouted, my mother gave me ONE warning. If I didn’t quiet down to an “indoor volume” and stay there, WE LEFT THE RESTAURANT … and I went without dinner, then faced being grounded.

    The only time we DIDN’T leave, was because my over-volume cries were not misbehavior, but true and honest horror: my parents were having their 5th anniversary dinner at a nice restaurant, where they’d made reservations more than a month in advance. My father splurged and got a half-Lobster … which arrived sitting up in it’s plate. I, being only three years old at the time, had never quite connected “food” with “living things that we KILL, to turn them into food”.

    But this lobster? Was the front half, and was sitting up in it’s plate … and suddenly, the lightbulb in my little brain clicked on and I had a true epiphany – prompting a loud and completelyly horrified cry of “IT’S GOT EYES …!!”

    Yup, that’s what it took: suddenly I realised that the lobster my father was going to eat, had once been alive … because it had eyes, and could look at the world just like I did. Quite a major revelation for a thee-year-old.

    And I couldn’t shut up about it. I truly, absolutely couldn’t.

    And even then, there was a solution: my mother and I were moved to a different table, and my father had to eat his anniversary meal alone (the restaurant wasn’t going to refund him for a not-inexpensive meal, and we couldn’t afford to just throw that money away). The alternative – as the manager informed my parents – was that we would be asked to leave, immediately.

    Notice, though: the management was not going to simply say “oh, he’s three, you can’t help it when they shout and scream”. No, it was “find a way to make the child be quiet, or get out of our restaurant.”

    Which was exactly and precisely the correct position for the management to take!

    • Fafaflunkie Plays His World's Smallest Violin For You says:

      PRECISELY! Seeing as I’ve already awarded the internet to someone else in this thread for today, you have my permission to have it tomorrow. Please also be sure to ban all references to Justin Beiber, Jersey Shore, or Paris Hilton.

    • Sparkstalker says:

      Honestly, you should have that scene re-created and posted to YouTube…you’d be famous.

      • Pax says:

        Hahaha, you’re probably right. This happened be back in the mid-seventies, though. Hard to truly recreate it, now.

  84. SilverBlade2k says:

    YES. It’s about fracking time too that restaurants stop putting up with whiny spawn that don’t know how to behave from parents that are only called parents due to their biological relationship to the child.

    I wish that MORE restaurants that belong in the mid-class category would clamp down and kick out whiny kids and their parents. If you have whiny kids, there’s a Mcdonalds/Burger King/A&W about 5 minutes away.

  85. human_shield says:

    I have a kid and if she screams we take her outside as punishment. That mom makes us all look bad. Maybe on an airplane you can’t help it if you kid throws a fit, but in a restaurant there’s no excuse to sit there and ignore it.

  86. Burrakkurozu says:

    Kudos to the business owner! I wish more businesses here would do that too.
    It really ruins your evening when you are trying to have a relaxing dinner and you end up dealing with loud, obnoxious, untrained monkeys that aren’t yours.

    Had an instance where I was at my favorite family-owned restaurant and someone else’s kid kept taking apart an old wooden statue that belonged to the owners, which I know. the parents were oblivious until I got up to stop it. the excuses the mom sputtered out made were so ridiculous, I just glared and said nothing before going back to my seat.

    No excuses. Control Your Child.

  87. MishunAcomplisht says:

    And that’s exactly why CPS should take that “mother’s” kid(s) away…

    I’m thrilled she was offended by the sign, it’s just too bad she didn’t “get it”.

    Now, onto my own story.

    I was completely PISSED about a year ago – I took a date to a very nice expensive place to eat and sure enough, married couple at table next to us did NOTHING while their BRAT kids literally jumped up and down on top of the table, screaming and throwing food for half an hour, nor did the waitstaff.

    Since the “dad” looked like a psycho killer marine, I didn’t want to provoke him, but I was sorely tempted. I demanded the meal be comped since the staff wouldn’t ask them to leave and be quiet and the manager agreed, but despite all the glares, I don’t think anyone else was as correctly bold as I was.

    This should be federal law, not just a local store policy.

  88. lihtox says:

    Sounds reasonable; I would always take my daughter outside if she started crying or screaming. At least they aren’t saying “If your kid cries once, you forfeit your meal.” or some such.

    Whining, though: sure that’s just the kids? :)

  89. PsiCop says:

    Yes! Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes!!

    Finally … a business with sanity, common sense, and some courage!

    For the woman who thinks, “you can’t help it if your kids scream,” I have only three words in response: “Take them outside!”

  90. DailyDriver72Imp says:

    Whatever just happened to belting the kid once in the mouth?

    :)

  91. Anaxamenes says:

    It was very simple in my family. If you, as a child misbehaved out in public, then you would not be allowed to go out with mom and dad. They would take us right home and there we would sit. It was a privilege to go out to eat and go to the fun stores while out with our parents.

    That said, I once saw a woman with her 5 year old boy, they had obviously been on an all day “mommy clothing shopping trip” and he was absolutely in a nuclear meltdown. But no child should have to go on an all day shopping trip, they just aren’t equipped to handle that much shopping.

  92. adamwade says:

    It doesn’t matter if the parent can help it or not. The parent needs to remove the child from the situation. If that interrupts the parents dinner, well, that’s the price you pay for being the parent. Your dinner should be interrupted by your kids, not have anyone else’s dinner ruined because your kid was not ready or able to be in public.

    I see this all the time, especially at Disney World. If you and your family are trying to enjoy a show, and one kid is screaming and kicking and crying and prevents everyone else from enjoying it – your kid is the problem and needs to be removed. The experiences of dozens or even hundreds of other guests in places should not be disrupted because you chose to bring your child somewhere they could not handle. When it begins, remove them from the situation.

    Bravo to this restaurant – I wish I lived near I’d go there all the time.

  93. Levk says:

    Hmm… You can control your kids some by raising them right.

  94. RvLeshrac says:
  95. BytheSea says:

    It’s brought in more business because screaming kids is a buzz word that isn’t really that big of a problem. However, people like to talk about it and get excited about a kid-free environment. It sounds hip and solves a problem that isn’t really there, in other words.

  96. Bkhuna says:

    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    She gave her opinion, of course, between conversations she was having on her cell phone further annoying those around her who were brought up with something called manners, which dictate that you respect others. Loud children, like cell phone conversations, belong outside of earshot of civilized patrons.

  97. gopena says:

    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Yes, you can. 100%. Growing up, my parents always told my sister and I to be quiet in restaurants, and god damnit if we didn’t, since there was always the looming fear of their punishment or a spanking. I don’t get why parents cant make the connection between punishment for bad behavior and well behaved children. It’s one point of view, yeah, but it worked for me :D

  98. Tongsy says:

    I would go there at least once to check it out, just because of this sign.

    But typically I only go to restaurants that a child wouldn’t be at anyway

  99. Talmonis says:

    I applaud this restaraunt for what it’s trying to do, they should be removing the PARENTS of unruly children from the establishment. As it’s not the child’s fault for being disruptive, but their responsibility. All I can think of every time I hear some of the bad parents on this blog rabidly defend “little precious” in his/her “expressing themselves” is the quote from American Psycho. “My pain in constant and sharp, but I do not wish for a better world for anyone. In fact, I want my pain to be inflicted upon others. I want no-one to escape.”

  100. Dallas_shopper says:

    Good for them. I’m sick of screaming children ruining every night out since parents feel like they have to bring their little darlings everywhere with them. Can’t afford a babysitter? Can’t afford a night out. Call Pizza Hut and live with the consequences of your lifestyle choice.

  101. harumph says:

    I would be more likely to go to a restaurant like this. I have little patience for parents that think their kid’s crappy behavior should be shared with everyone evenly.
    My uncle used to work for a place that threw all their booster seats out to discourage parents with really young kids from coming in because they were just a constant nightmare.

  102. Ninjanice says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream”.

    That may be true, but you, as a parent, can help it if your kids are ruining other peoples’ meals. I know when I was little and my sister or I acted up in public, we were immediately removed from the location and taken outside and reprimanded.

  103. Talmonis says:

    Here is in a nutshell what all the parents with awful children who do not want to discipline them want. From American Psycho: “My pain is constant and sharp, and I do not wish for a better world for anyone. In fact, I want my pain to be inflicted on others. I want no one to escape…”

  104. iluvhatemail says:

    can we make this an amendment to our constitution?

  105. TheWraithL98 says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    maybe, however you can help WHERE they scream by packing up your shit and leaving if your kid is being a complete brat

  106. basilwhite says:

    Removing screaming children is age discrimination. Please remove all screaming people regardless of age.

  107. Jason Litka says:

    I’m 100% behind the owner. I think it’s unacceptable that today’s parents think that I should have to put up with their whiny child just because there’s no mac & cheese or hot dogs on the menu.

    If you want to bring your young children out to eat that’s fine, but do it at a family shop and remember that you have a duty to remove that child from the environment if they misbehave. If the parents ignore the situation then the restaurant should ask them to leave. Any establishment that doesn’t loses my business.

    I walk out of at least one place a month, sometimes shortly after arriving and sometimes most of the way through my meal, because neither the parents or restaurant will do anything about a screaming child.

  108. baristabrawl says:

    Uh…yeah, you can help it if your kids scream. I have never had a problem saying, “Your child is interrupting my meal.” Honestly, if you can’t control your children, don’t have them.

  109. ceez says:

    good job

  110. lawgirl502 says:

    This is pathetic and that person should not be in the restaurant business at all. I have 2 kids and I was in the food & bev industry for over 16 yrs and found that the adults are less behaved than the kids. BUT when kids act up, it is just as bothersome to their own parents. If you hate other people’s behavior-don’t go out period. This is age discrimination- against children.

    • Talmonis says:

      I shouldn’t have to stop going to resteraunts simply because you refuse to properly raise your spawn. It’s YOUR fault that they’re acting out and ruining everyone’s dinner. Learn to discipline your children instead of enforcing your desire to make everyone suffer as you do.

  111. keepntabs says:

    I honestly don’t think that they ask the parents to take the screaming child outside just for one outburst, but more likely if the behavior continues for a couple of minutes, and the parents don’t seem to able/willing to control the child.

    I don’t have children, but one of my best friends has 7 kids, and during all of the years that I have known her family, they NEVER scream, whine loudly, or run around. If they tried to exhibit that behavior she quickly reprimanded them by telling them to stop, giving them the evil eye, or taking them outside of the restaurant. She never waited until other diners were glaring at her for the children’s behavior; maybe because she 7 of them, but that’s another story. It is the parent’s responsibility to teach their children proper behavior, and to recognize whether their children should be taken out in public.

    I’d go to this restaurant to see how the atmosphere is, and return if the food was really good.

  112. consumerd says:

    A lot of people (besides the fact he’s cute) tell me that for a 1 year old mine is quite behaved. He puts up a fit going into a high chair but I think at 1 year old (and he likes to see everyone!) I can’t really argue if he is eating while sitting on mom’s lap. A lot of times we are out with his grandpa and grandma and after grandma is done she takes him and feeds him. Now at home, he will sit in the high chair as long as we are both within viewing distance and watching his channel on tv. If one of us is doing something else it’s a no-go. Otherwise than that, he pretty much doesn’t give me or the wife very many problems except when he gets woke up by the neighbors and their hot rods at 9 A.M. in the morning. Again I can’t place blame on a 1 year old when the neighbor’s ’69 dodge charger with hoosier tires on it, and when it’s running it vibrates all the windows and walls on that side of the house. The officer is supposed to talk to them guys later today about it. According to the paper the pediatrician gave us at these months they typically want dad or mom to hold them more. My little boy is just growing up. :)

  113. Senator says:

    Speaking as a toddler myself, I do not think it is fair. I will file a lawsuit if I am kicked out of this establishment because of my whining post- haste.

  114. Vandil says:

    I started going to restaurants more often once smoking was banned. If there was a screaming kid ban, I’d probably go even more often.

    I don’t hate children, but sometimes you just want a quiet meal with your party and not hear someone’s screaming child. Same is true for movie theaters. Leave the baby with a sitter.

  115. anduin says:

    Love it, I love kids too but when I go out for a meal I do not want to be seeing crying, complaining children. I do appreciate parents who take their children away when they start to misbehave rather than do that ridiculous ignore and keep eating which is disrespectful to the people around.

  116. anduin says:

    Love it, I love kids too but when I go out for a meal I do not want to be seeing crying, complaining children. I do appreciate parents who take their children away when they start to misbehave rather than do that ridiculous ignore and keep eating which is disrespectful to the people around. And yes you can stop your child from screaming, if you can’t you ARE a bad parent.

  117. Consumerista says:

    You know, i thought it was just my town that had poor parenting skills.
    From the comments, it seems it seems that i was wrong.
    Wow. Quite prevalent.

  118. JadePharaoh says:

    Awesome. Too bad I don’t live in NC; I’d probably be a regular at that place.

  119. tk427 says:

    “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”

    Imbecile, YOU can’t help it if YOUR kids scream.

    I’m thinking of the scene in Casino where security brushes against the guy, sticks him with a cattle prod, walks away and the crowd is none the wiser – I wonder what one of those things goes for?

  120. Surfergirl1286 says:

    I love this… I wish there were restaurants where I live that would do this…. But most places are too afraid to get sued or whatever to do it…

  121. funnymonkey says:

    Why “The female owner” and not just “The owner”?

    I was going to talk about parents actually parenting, but it looks like everyone else has got that angle covered.

  122. Krang Krabowski says:

    Finally!…. but i hate children… j/k…. but seriously.

  123. TheSurlyOne says:

    I remember seeing a sign in a store years ago that said, “Keep your kid on a leash!” Loved it!

    If your child is disrupting the meal of others in a restaurant, the only responsible thing to do is to take them outside until they calm down….or leave if they refuse to behave! It’s not my problem that you can’t control your child!!!

    My sister and I haven’t fought since we were teenagers, but about eight years ago we almost came to blows (we’re both in our mid/late 30s now) over this very issue. My nephew, who was 3 at the time, was pitching a temper tantrum in a restaurant and clearly annoying everyone around us (including me, his uncle)! She tried to talk to reason with him (great idea…with a 3yr old), but he kept screaming and crying. After another minute or so of his tantrum, I grabbed his butt up, told my sister to sit the *$@# down and shut her own mouth, and I took him outside to the curb until he finished his tantrum. When I walked back in the restaurant, I got several winks and nods from other patrons who appreciated me taking responsibility for the situation, even though it wasn’t my kid! He’s 11 now and a perfect little gentleman in all public situations. =)

  124. denisem says:

    I would begin to patronize this restaurant in a heartbeat.

  125. fokensheatman says:

    They need signs like this in every restaurant, theatre, and all retail shops. I’ve heard of so many stories about how kids run and act crazy in stores, especially at the walmart near my house, and where my gf works they’re not any better. The kids are out of control, the parents don’t even pay attention to them and so my gf is now fussing at the child to stop misbehaving or to stop what they are doing, next thing you know the mother is actually right there in the same aisle not even watching their child vandalize store property. Its sad when a parent wont take 2 minutes to tell the kid, NO!

    This is why they need more signs like this.
    Parents do NOT care anymore, they would rather someone else to discipline their child.

    If store’s had more signs like this then i think employees might enjoy showing up to work once and awhile.

  126. kamiikoneko says:

    I’m sure it’s been said already, but…

    [q]
    Asked for her opinion, one mother said that she had never seen such a sign and that, “You can’t help it if your kids scream.”
    [/q]

    Mother of the year award please.

    What an idiot learn how to raise a child

  127. Aph says:

    Sure you cant PREVENT a scream without a muzzle. But you sure can HELP the people around you by taking the child outside.

  128. NoFriggingWay says:

    I’ll make sure to take my Autistic son in this weekend then. If they ask us to leave , it will Violate quite a few discrimination laws. He screams because of his disability, not because he is a brat.

    The way I see it, I can’t lose.