Expensive Purchases Are Like Peacock Feathers, Except They Don't Work
Geoffrey Miller, an evolutionary psychologist at the University of New Mexico, says marketers are trying too hard to find a working model of why people spend money the way they do. It really comes down to the human equivalent of "cost signaling" in the animal world—a sort of "peacock feather" display that's supposed to tell peers and prospective mates how smart or sophisticated we are. The only problem is, other people never fall for it.
Suppose, during a date, you casually say, "The sugar maples in Harvard Yard were so beautiful every fall term." Here's what you're signaling, as translated by Dr. Miller:
"My S.A.T. scores were sufficiently high (roughly 720 out of 800) that I could get admitted, so my I.Q. is above 135, and I had sufficient conscientiousness, emotional stability and intellectual openness to pass my classes. Plus, I can recognize a tree."
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Dr. Miller says that much of the pleasure we derive from products stems from the unconscious instinct that they will either enhance or signal our fitness by demonstrating intelligence or some of the Big Five personality traits: openness, conscientiousness, agreeableness, stability and extraversion.
To begin with, we had no idea there's a group of personality traits called the Big Five, and frankly we're disappointed that laziness and "revenge plotting" aren't in there, considering how much energy this writer devotes to those past times.
But back to evolutionary psychology. One way Dr. Miller illustrates his theory is by testing whether people change their shopping habits after being primed by pictures of attractive mates. They do:
In a series of experiments, Dr. Miller and other researchers found that people were more likely to expend money and effort on products and activities if they were first primed with photographs of the opposite sex or stories about dating.
After this priming, men were more willing to splurge on designer sunglasses, expensive watches and European vacations. Women became more willing to do volunteer work and perform other acts of conspicuous charity - a signal of high conscientiousness and agreeableness, like demonstrating your concern for third world farmers by spending extra for Starbucks's "fair trade" coffee.
But the truly useful point made by Dr. Miller (at least from our perspective) is: all this signaling doesn't really work. He describes the misperception that what we purchase matters to other people as a "fundamental consumerist delusion," but because a lot of the behavior is triggered by subconscious impulses, it can be hard to recognize or break. On the New York Times website, he suggests a simple exercise you can do to help illustrate the disconnect between how much you spend on something and how much enjoyment it brings yout:
List the ten most expensive things (products, services or experiences) that you have ever paid for (including houses, cars, university degrees, marriage ceremonies, divorce settlements and taxes). Then, list the ten items that you have ever bought that gave you the most happiness. Count how many items appear on both lists.
Note that this won't help convince you that people aren't falling for your screwed-up notion that what you buy will make people like you more, but it will help you realize that those big-ticket purchases aren't always necessary for creating a fulfilling life. And if they're not making you happy and aren't getting you laid, then maybe there's really no good reason to purchase them at all.
"Message in What We Buy, but Nobody's Listening" [New York Times]
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From the quotes above, the study does show people are more likely to make expensive purchases to influence others, but it does not show that the purchases are ineffective.
I think they are more effective than people care to admit. Quality and style are recognizeable, and can change your opinion of someone. The disconnect is that money does not always equal quality/style.
@SirNotAppearing: maybe this is a pwrsoanl prefererence, but I'd rather not date someone who put that much stock in brand names and designer knick-knacks.
I see it mostly not work among the people trying very hard to look like they are well-off when it is obvious they are not. The local fast food workers with giant gold chains worn outside of their T-shirts are a great example. Also, the tricked-out Dodge neon with the 20" wheels and custom spoiler is another. Instead of communicating affluence, they are communicating idiotic spending.
Or maybe I'm wrong.
@SirNotAppearing: I sort of alluded to that below. Flashy != stylish though many confuse the two. Granted, there are those that are attracted to such gaudiness so there is certainly going to be a pool of people that such behavior makes sense to.
@deadspork: There is a subtle difference between your and SirNotAppearing's comment. It does take a certain financial investment to maintain one's look. You have to buy nice clothes and replace them when needed, get a hair cut at the right times, etc. That is not to say that when you go out and buy clothes you need to pick up the most expensive brand name shirt that you can find. You want to look nice and have a sense of style without looking like a walking billboard.
@SirNotAppearing: I am constantly amazed at the things some dating men will buy to impress women. Apparently all of their knowledge of women comes from bad sitcoms ... or porn.
It definitely doesn't work in that context.
@everyone: I'll give an example of what I'm talking about. Brooks Brothers no-iron dress shirts are about $80 each. Kind of expensive for me. But they always look like they came from the drycleaners, I get compliments on them, they last longer than cheaper dress shirts, and there's no logo on them. Expensive purchase, not peacocking, it is effective.
Well lets see:
Top 10 most expensive things I ever bought off my own buck (in descending order):
Car
Gas
Laptop
Bed/Mattress
iPod
PSP
My entire wardrobe
Digicam
Nintendo DS
Roomba
Top 10 Thing that I bought that give the the most pleasure:
Laptop
1 Hour with Karamel
Car/Gas (one useless without the other)
Bed
Executive Chair
iPod
Nintendo DS (i gifted it to a childhood friend)
Netflix
Microwave
Roomba
Well thats a faur amount of overlap. Also, the PSP is clocking up a lot of feelgoodness (it is my gym mate)... so well, I guess it totally depends on what shit you buy.
@deadspork: True, but there is something to be said about style, elegance and quality.
I would rather date someone who puts in some extra money to get better quality and decency of style, as compared to someone who just goes for the absolute cheapest option, quality be fucked.
Clothes are a special case, you can get about the same thing for the fraction of a price, if you do not buy from designer lables, and true, anyone who splurges on that or insists on having only the designer brands is too superficial (most of the time).
The single wisest purchase I have every made: $30 to freeze my credit at the three credit bureaus ($10 per credit bureau). When two women stole $12,000 from my Bank of America account, they went on to Target, Kmart, and other stores and tried to get instant credit in my name and were denied.
I recommend it to everyone if you live in one of the 47 states (or D.C.) allowing this:
@Lucifer_Cat:
Who is Karamel? What is her hourly rate? Can I book her for this weekend if it is one of the things that bought you the most pleasure.
Oh, and WTF are you doing with your Roomba?
oh my....
I do believe I volunteered to participate in one of these tests:
I did some behavioral labs at Wharton where they made me fill in prices of what I would pay for something, then they had me rate the attractiveness of lingerie models (which was something awesome to get paid for) and then I did another set of setting prices. Hmmm, wonder if this is in anyway related. Not the same school but possibly the same subject.
@Eyebrows McGee (now with more baby!):
And you would not believe the crap I see women buying thinking it makes them more attractive. Just because your friends think it is sexy, doesn't mean guys do or even notice; in-fashion or out-of-fashion, ugly is ugly.
Ugg boots are the perfect example these days: expensive as all heck, but I've only met guys that think they are hideous or at least neutral. Not one guy on the planet has ever said, "Heeeeeey! Check out the neanderthal with the fuzzy kneecaps! I'd really like to show her a good time... I bet her feet smell like hobo urine and whale snot!"
@ReidFleming: Yeah, I love when I see people whose kids are dressed like orphans and have cavities the size of raisins in their front teeth, but they have chrome rims and purple headlights on their 12-year-old Acura. How about sending your kid to the dentist and picking up new T-shirts and shorts for them at Old Navy, instead?
@Julia789: its just goes to show that some cultures put material wealth at much higher status than health. I don't care what you have as your ride or what house you live in, if you have nasty teeth I look down upon you; it's real easy to just brush them.
@mrsultana: Ahh Karamel... karamel and her strawberry flavored body butter... I am sorry. I cannot give you any more details about her. I have said enough already.
About my Roomba... well I cant tell you anything more about it either.
@mrsultana: Not a fan of the Uggs myself. However, I think that's more about signaling to the pack members "I'm one of you" than it is broadcasting to potential mates. I think Miller's got an interesting theory and I don't doubt the effect he's talking about, but it doesn't operate in isolation.
And as people are noting upthread, while spending above the norm may not lure you a nice sexual partner, that can't be translated into people's never noticing your outlay or presentation; if somebody never meets the general standard, that's going to get noticed. I would hypothesize it's the above and beyond the average that produces no return on investment, sexually speaking.
Just because its expensive doesn't mean its flattering or it looks good on every body type. Expensive doesn't always equal quality either. When shopping for clothing people need to look in the mirror (and before leaving the house)! Clothing will alter the way you look tremendously. Its more important to me to get something that looks right on me then to buy the most expensive and stylish thing on the rack even if it makes me look like a turd. Obviously some people buy whatever is trendy even if it looks bad, I can't imagine a man who would want a woman who dresses like some of the people I see around here.
I don't think men want women who are very high maintenance either, if a women is wearing expensive brands then I would think it would signal to the man that if I date this woman I am going to be spending all my money on expensive brands for her, unless of course the man has that kind of money to spend and wants a person like that. In my area that is not the norm though. Men hate to shop and they hate to buy things for women most of the time but I am almost positive that they really hate shopping especially for clothes. Maybe they wouldn't hate shopping in a best buy but most electronics shopping is done online these days.
@floraposte: As for Uggs -- made in China by an American-owned company. No relation to Australia and they are cheap-a$$ crap. Keep buying 'em sheeples -- but people are sure to suffer for it.
@Lucifer_Cat: Yeah, I did that "exercise" too and I would say that the overlap is actually close to total.
I think it's because I am completely NOT an impulsive spender, especially when it comes to major purchases. I carefully research and plan that sort of thing in order to get my money's worth. This means that a) I never usually regret spending my money, b) I get more for my money than a lot of people, and c) I have a built-in period of "cooling off" before making major purchases that gives me some mental separation so that I don't make decisions emotionally. It works for me.
@Outrun1986: I actually think that fashion trends are an interesting case that is somewhat related to the phenomenon in this article. I believe that fashion trends are, essentially, marketing-driven. In other words, people think things are trendy because of subtle marketing to the right people that makes them trendy. But then a lot more people start buying into the trends because OTHER people buy into them, and they don't want to look unstylish or unfashionable or whatever. So fashion is actually a clever exploitation of this "signaling" desire people have, whether it's a desire to signal high status or just a desire to fit in to the herd.
Another thing to remember is that different people, who are part of different groups, use this "signaling" differently. The same thing worn by you, vs. the hippie stoner guy, or the goth girl, might be signaling something completely different in each case (and possibly completely at the opposite end of the positive vs. negative signals scale). So whether it "looks good" is subjective and dependent on "who you're trying to impress". I'm sure that expensive designer brand-name clothes ARE an effective signal in some circles, just like I suspect that completely shunning that sort of thing is effective in others.
@mrsultana: Oh sure. It's not limited to men. But obviously I tend to notice the male peacocking-fails a little more.
@johnva: I think it might actually be more interesting in the middle of the range. The most expensive things I've paid for are things like house, car, college, hospital birth, health insurance, etc.
Those are either things that give me lots of satisfaction (house, college, excellent anesthetics) or things that you can't really function without (health insurance, car -- which gives me reasonable pleasure, but I'm not a big car person, so I didn't pay a lot). And those kinds of purchases are not the kind one is likely to make on impulse.
It'd be more interesting if we were looking at purchases under $1000 or $2000 or some other arbitrary number and saying, "How much pleasure do you really get out of those decorative vases? How much out of that $5 fleece blanket?"
I know my house does some important "signalling" of who I think I am, but those were very deliberate choices about our values and lifestyle. I expect the money I spend on impulse buys at Threadless signals something more subtle and interesting. (Like that I have a weird fixation on T-shirts where food is eating other food.)
@Eyebrows McGee (now with more baby!): Yeah, I would agree with you that the middle range is probably more interesting.
@Eyebrows McGee (now with more baby!): The things that guys do at clubs to try to impress the girls, and the volume of feminine snickers as the girls compare notes in the Ladies Room could fill volumes.
@ReidFleming: Or dumbass rich white trash who load themselves down with Ralph Lauren, Coach, etc logos in an effort to make sure the whole world knows that they can afford such things. They think they show affluence, when, in reality, they show how gaudy they are and what bad taste they have.
I really believe in taking care of your appearance, but it needs to be remembered that price does not always equal quality.
@johnva: I'm much the same way. My friends tease me because it takes me months, sometimes, to figure out what to get. Or I forgo certain categories completely. Needs vs Wants running thru my head the whole while.
Yet they're the people renting off-site storage lockers, and I'm not.
It's okay: mutual love, different strokes, etc. But when I'm alone, I smirk to myself. Hopefully that doesn't make me TOO bad.
@Trai_Dep: I'm kind of like that too, but to be honest, that's where a lot of the pleasure in material goods comes for me anyway--the planning and the dreaming. So I'm fortunate in that I genuinely enjoy a stage that makes it likelier I'll enjoy what I end up with. (I think that's true of a lot of us gardeners, who spend the winter poring over catalogues and planning for spring.)
And I also think that some of the happiness a thing buys me can be indirect. The car is just fine, and it is all it needs to be. The happiness it gets me is the freedom from worrying about it and its upkeep, and the convenience and time saved it brings me. It's well worth the investment, but I wouldn't say it makes me directly happy the way the house does.
Uggs actually makes some reasonably classy looking and functional boots, but unfortunately, those aren't the ones most people buy. Plus no matter which ones you buy, they never look good when worn with a pair of sweatpants or shorts.
I am afraid that the guy in the Porsche is getting more respect than the guy in the 1992 rusty honda. Some people might make claims about "compensating for something" but quite simply the Porsche guy is getting more respect.
The hummer guy is probably not getting as much respect though, so one must choose the correct feather to preen with.
A study like this would be very hard as bling that works in Miami might backfire in Nova Scotia; whereas Nova Scotia Bling might not be noticed in Miami.
So I would not read that this study proves that bling doesn't work so much as it proves that studies like this are hard to do correctly.
I looked in my backyard for a supernova and since there wasn't one, there are no supernovas.
@thelushie: Rather than the designer purses, I'm more impressed with a purchase of a quality purse from a real leather-worker; good stitching, quality materials, yet less expensive than the name brands. You can get a beautiful bag made by some little old man who has been making boots and saddles (english or western style, doesn't matter). Take good care of the leather and it will last you for years. You can get classic styles that never go out of fashion. You can even bring them a design you have in mind, and they can create it. Hand cut and stitched by an expert, instead of mass produced in overseas factories.
@Julia789: I get what you're saying, but it also seems to me pretty much the same thing as judging the logo buyers--it's rating people on their purchases, and sinking a lot of money into something based on the statement it makes.
Not that I think that's Eevul or that I never do it, it's just that I don't see how one kind of it can be inherently superior to another. Though maybe we get into a weird place where the very belief that my process is superior enhances the happiness in my purchase, in the same way that people's glee at a sale price makes them love the item more.
@johnva: I think this is an excellent point--that there are essentially social dialects, so what your item says to group 1 and group 2 may be totally different. And we really, really work within our groups.
The problem with fashion's changing styles is that it freaking works. Not that it matters, for most of us, to keep up with every single "this season's must-haves," but that, say, never updating your 1980s wardrobe and hair says "I am aware neither of myself nor the outside world." (Phrase memes are even more annoyingly ephemeral, but at least they didn't cost anything.)
I wonder if, in this recession, the opposite will occur. Frugality is a desirable trait, so will businessmen start showing off their brown bagged ham and cheese sandwich to the ladies? Or going to the grocery store and comparing coupons with attractive women who are reading the sales circular?
Probably not, but it'd be a funny turn around.
@donovanr: But from whom is he getting this respect? If he's not getting it from women he wants to bed, it's not an evolutionary advantage. I suspect that the Porsche is more of a signal to his competitors than to his prospective partners, but that neither group is as interested in them as he is.
Put it another way: if you rank the people you know by respect, and rank their vehicles by expense, do those lists really correlate? I don't think they do for most people.
@sk1d: It will, but you have to follow through and spend a lot of cash on the girl. That's what separates us from peacocks.
@floraposte: You just nailed my thought process. I spend weeks or months (in a few cases, years) fantasizing and planning over what I want to buy. I bought my car in mid 2008, but started research in mid 2006 (i was still a student then and did not need a car).
When I finally bought the car. It was the one on my Top 5 "buy in a flash" list. Same with the laptop, and almost any other major purchase. I also spend ages planning my vacations, which basically ensures that I am well prepared and informed as to how to have the most fun with the least stress.
The only two things on that list which were rather impulsive are the Roomba and the DS. The latter was a gift, and totally worth it, and oh boy I love my roomba.
Well, and Karamel too... with a K.
@floraposte: I'm not so much impressed by them having "better" things. I guess that was poorly worded on my part to come across that way.
What it does do, is it conveys to me that the person is sensible, thinks long term, plans ahead, and favors quality and workmanship over fancy labels. It's the paying for labels that I think is silly. If people had a choice between quality item that would last a while, and a designer label at a higher price but lower quality, I think it's silly to choose the label.
Of course, if someone could not afford quality goods I would never mock them or hold it against them. Or if someone simply chose to purchase low cost items, that is up to them. I just think the labels thing is silly.
On the other hand, the more extreme example of people putting the little money they have into their car accessories instead of their children's dental or medical care, or having proper shoes that were not outgrown months before, really upsets me. I see it at my child's school, and the school nurse and social worker are upset by it as well as they often have to spend a great deal of time helping these children get proper shoes or get seen by a dentist/hygenist.













What if we aren't happy b/c we aren't getting laid?
Luckily, my cheapness overrides my desire to mate, so almost everything I wear or buy is on sale, and only rarely do I "splurge" on something to impress someone, like cologne or meals.